How do you feel when you're alone, when you're with a couple close friends, when you meet people for the first time, etc? How do you react in social situations, outwardly and inwardly?
Alone: Relieved, comfortable and natural-- usually, at first. For a time. When it gets to be a few days that I haven't talked to anyone, then I become bored and can't get out of the house fast enough.
With close friends: Simply enthralled. Good times. I feel very fulfilled having spent a day with friends.
When I meet people for the first time: Like an awkward robot.
In social situations I... Am very quiet and observant and like to fade into the background if I am with unfamiliar people. Partly because I am shy, but I am also cautious and like to take in the details and make assessments before revealing anything of myself, even if it's just a smile. Maybe that's just a fancy way of saying, shy. The weird thing is that in a professional setting, I am not shy. I am lively and outgoing and am quick to build a rapport.
But perhaps that's because I understand the unspoken rules better in that situation.
If I am with people I know well I can be very gregarious. In those instances, I suppose I am reacting outwardly.
How does introversion manifest itself in the rest of your personality?
I have a
professional surrogate.
Actually, I will answer this with one of my brother's observations (As I have heard him tell others--through the grape vine) "She's in one of her hermit phases. Give her a few days."
At a former job years ago someone I became friends with noted to me: "I thought the first four months you worked here that you were incapable of speech."
An art teacher once told me I was "spunky in a quiet way."
How do you know you're an introvert, and how much more introverted do you think you seem to be compared to most people you know?
I feel stressed out if I don't get to spend time alone. Sometimes I will consider starting a conversation with someone but always pause to consider the amount of energy it will cost me.. and make my decision based on whether or not it's worth it. Also, if I am having some interesting thoughts I won't want to set those aside to start a conversation with someone if I can help it. I would almost always prefer daydreaming to chatting. Unless, like I said, it's a topic that really engages me.
That sounds horrible, I know. I swear I'm really not the biggest asshole ever though.
How do you feel around talkative people, and how do you feel around quiet people? What responses do these people elicit in you?
Frazzled around talkative people if they are talking about something boring--because then I feel pressured to be polite and smile and nod when I just want to get away.
Around really quiet people, I either try to amuse them (If I think they are shy and uncomfortable) or leave them alone if they seem comfortable being quiet...and enjoy moments of silence with them.
I can understand that usually, really talkative people are interested in making some connection... and I appreciate that. But it is still taxing when I would rather be thinking about other things than the same story you told me a week ago or what you watched on tv.