Some argue there is a correlation between parenting and sexual orientation but I haven't seen a credible study to support that argument.
I do believe that parenting, and just life experiences in general can influence sexual orientation. I also believe that we can be genetically predisposed one way or the other, to varying degrees. Sexuality is both biological and psychological. When people try to claim that it's purely one or the other, usually it's either to "blame" homosexuals by saying it's something they can control (which doesn't make sense anyway, because most things that influence us psychologically are NOT conscious or easy to control) or to "remove the blame" by saying it's entirely out of their control (this is more understandable, but still just a kneejerk defense).
Agreed. I would argue it's not as much as some people would argue, but not as little as the other group would argue too. I believe it has some control, in a way. Perhaps like, the key to your subconscious Pandora's Box. But that required the generic predisposition to be homosexual from the beginning, and if it isn't, no amount of parental messup could turn one into a homosexual. And besides...
Agreed. Almost any sexual orientation and/or proclivity can be explained by analyzing early environmental influences. Not explained entirely, of course - but more than some people would care to admit. And the stronger the paraphilia or fetish, the more this hold true because they are, IMO, just anodynes for the pain of trauma.
(All the homosexual men I have somewhat known have had terrible relationships with their fathers - but are all absolutely adament that this has absolutely nothing to do with them being homosexual.)
Going deeper, there's the issue of issues. Agreed with [MENTION=1425]Korg[/MENTION], If we're talking about parental issues, mostly Daddy issues, mommy issues. They can turned into The Catalyst for homosexuality, fetishes, or simply what we would call making bad choices; depending on each people. ([MENTION=862]Flavus Aquila[/MENTION]; I would say the cases you'd seen is more because of considering the possibility gives the insinuation that tend to imply of Elektra Complexes, which tend to be even more repulsive)
Again, it might be too small to bother, or too complex to dissect but that doesn't mean they don't exist. Complex, because people have millions of variables that could change their perspective on life.
Consider a number of people having a problem with their father. Their father's too traditional, too hard, too -macho-; the typical macho dad who'd beat you up for being gay. NOW does this mean they are all gay for those daddy issues? No. But I would argue that it -does- have a role. Maybe one avoids hetero sex because he felt it reminded him of his father. Another decides he won't be like him, becoming the girly kind of gay. Another subconsciously seeks to rebuild his relationship, finding men after men after men with characteristic like his father. Another developed a distaste (or fetish) towards some aspect of his father. Millions of possibilities, one source. But also millions of other variables that could change the result.
In such cases, if the father actively demeans the son, it seems (again anecdotally) that there is a relatively frequent tendency towards transgender-ism; or a lack of identification in the son of his male sex.
also one possibility.
But given the generalization, the flavor of 'homosexual-through-parental-issues' would be very, very, very different compared to 'homosexual-without-parental-issues'. In my understanding, the former sounds like a type of paraphilia / fetish. The latter...not so. :|
For instance, OP / [MENTION=4083]Gerard91[/MENTION]'s case. what you said might 'make' you gay, but you're already gay to begin with. But what you'd described might also be true; a sort of friendship of the underdogs. And it seems like more of 'the flavor of the relationship between your dad and mom' rather than 'heterosexual relationship' that you're explicitly running away from?
(OF COURSE, I feel the need to press that ALL homosexuals are capable of loving, caring, even 'normal' relationship, and not some messed-up creatures from Rainbowland that's sick. We're not sicker than the heterosexual or bisexual. YAY)