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So, I was thinking about it a lot lately and decided that there are only two reasons a person would keep a crush, or romantic interest, secret:
Fear of Reject ( from the person themselves, their peers, etc.)
OR
Embarrassment from low-self esteem ( thinking that no one wants them, that they could never 'get' someone like that' because they aren't good enough in looks, appearance, riches, fame, etc.)
I've decided to totally break this chain, because, hell, I've broken pretty much other social rule of conduct so why not break this one?
From this point on I'm not going to try to hide who I have romantic inclinations towards for either of those reasons. Unless it's going to get me in jail, I'm going to be pretty vocal about it. My reasoning is this:
1. I'm not afraid of rejection. I've been rejected plenty of times by plenty of people for mundane things. This isn't just romantic rejection. I've been rejected for job positions before, business proposals and plans of mine have been rejected. Rejection is a part of life and only if I was rejected was I able to get back up and do some serious heavy lifting. I improved after being rejected, and sometimes, the rejections were unjust. But that has never stopped me, and it's definitely not going to stop me in the romantic world.
2. I have excellent self-esteem. I know my limits and I know what I am unsure on. Those who I like are a reflection of my good tastes. The majority of the time I have impeccable taste in men and women and their good qualities shine onto my good pickin' eyes. Even if I don't want to pursue something, what's the point in keeping it secret if you aren't afraid?
So.
What are you views on the 'secrecy' of crushes?
Do you
Fear of Reject ( from the person themselves, their peers, etc.)
OR
Embarrassment from low-self esteem ( thinking that no one wants them, that they could never 'get' someone like that' because they aren't good enough in looks, appearance, riches, fame, etc.)
I've decided to totally break this chain, because, hell, I've broken pretty much other social rule of conduct so why not break this one?
From this point on I'm not going to try to hide who I have romantic inclinations towards for either of those reasons. Unless it's going to get me in jail, I'm going to be pretty vocal about it. My reasoning is this:
1. I'm not afraid of rejection. I've been rejected plenty of times by plenty of people for mundane things. This isn't just romantic rejection. I've been rejected for job positions before, business proposals and plans of mine have been rejected. Rejection is a part of life and only if I was rejected was I able to get back up and do some serious heavy lifting. I improved after being rejected, and sometimes, the rejections were unjust. But that has never stopped me, and it's definitely not going to stop me in the romantic world.
2. I have excellent self-esteem. I know my limits and I know what I am unsure on. Those who I like are a reflection of my good tastes. The majority of the time I have impeccable taste in men and women and their good qualities shine onto my good pickin' eyes. Even if I don't want to pursue something, what's the point in keeping it secret if you aren't afraid?
So.
What are you views on the 'secrecy' of crushes?
Do you