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    Well to start off, I've always contemplated the idea of why women send nudity so willingly,
    and what makes them do it. What is going through a females' mind when she decides to
    reward a guy with fulfilling imagery? Is it a correlation between wanting attention from that
    guy? Is it because she's having an adrenaline rush of overwhelming confidence and eroticism?
    Is it because her trust has became fairly adequate for her receiver?

    The reason I'm asking this question is because, I've been awarded with such content more
    than a plausible amount of times, and so have other people I've known. To be clear, when
    such things happen, I've never asked for it! Not once. It has always came out of the blue,
    literally. What strikes me more odd is, most of the time it's happened, is when I've spoken
    to them less than usual. Not because I don't want to, but when we do speak there's a bit of
    a lag, i'd say. Other times it has happen, they would let me know that it's coming. Stating
    in entendres and innuendos that I would be receiving something the following day, or so on.

    I've always been curious of how it happens and why, and when I ask them
    why they did it, I'd get responses such as, "I don't know", or "because I felt like it".

    Has anyone else had this experience? And what is your input on why this happens,
    and for what. There can be countless reasoning behind this, and conclusions, but
    I'm just curious for some feedback, especially from female perspectives.
     
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    Personally, I've only ever sent nudes of any type to the person I'm in love with and trust completely, so my curiosity towards this is probably on par with your own. I can guess at their reasons why: a need to display oneself as a testament of sexual freedom, a need to feel wanted and desired, though "attention-seeking" is the one flashing like a neon sign in my head at the moment. But it could be something as simple and similar to my own intentions when I have done this... to drive him absolutely and insatiably wild.
     
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    So gaining empowerment over your significant other mentally and physically, by declaring your libido and being self righteous makes you feel more wanted, yes?
     
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    Precisely. I've actually had men question why I am unwilling to send things of this nature. Like they're used to receiving them? If I was gonna send something like that, it would be to the person I'm committed to, and to let him know that I expect some action the next time we're together.
     
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    Fair enough. What are some reactions you have gained from doing this and how has it made you felt?
     
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    I suppose in a sense it is empowering, though I never thought of it as a self-righteous act. Sure it makes you feel desired when you have a positive response, but that isn't my motivation behind it. For myself, it's more like an act of foreplay. When you initiate foreplay, are you doing so to gain empowerment and to make yourself feel wanted? Maybe so, maybe not. Maybe sometimes we just want to make love to the person that we love and this is a way to initiate that. Everyone has their own agenda with such things, and that was the point I was trying to make. The reasoning behind why I have done this may be far different from the reasoning of someone else.
     
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    Sounds good. Thanks for the great feedback! (=
     
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    I thought it was because a majority of women are exhibitionists. That and the fact that the thought that sex is a driving factors of winning a males attention. Something that society has no issue in supporting.

    I think its a mistake for anyone to create media of this type. Whether its right or wrong society will punish those who do this type of thing just because.
     
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    Do you have a significant amount of money or resources?

    did you bang them at any time around when they sent the pics?
     
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    I'd bet that at least some of the time, it is really just an old, fat homosexual man sending the images, just to get you to send something explicit back.
     
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    Revenge porn is nasty and not currently illegal, so I'd be very careful who I sent these pics to. Even If I loved and trusted them.
     
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    I've had a few exchanges in previous relationships. With gf A. it was all foreplay and fun, gf B. it was dangling a preverbial carrot over me, gf C. required a lot of attention and my time and was extremely clingy. Like what [MENTION=13729]Free[/MENTION] said, everyone has their own agenda and motives behind it. Regardless if it's right or wrong, please don't be a jerk and misuse the trust that these women obviously have in you.
     
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    Good point. What strikes me weird is why they carry on that behavior willingly, knowingly they already have the males attention. Proceeding as if it's a bonus attention grabber of some sort.
     
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    I wouldn't say I have a significant amount of money, but I carry myself that way. I portray that stereotype evenly.

    And no, I haven't banged any of them that have sent that stuff, but they notify me that they interested in doing that.
     
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    If we're talking about LDR, definitely not. I take high precautions before speaking to anyone at all, unless I've secretly searched their background, (image searching, phone records, Snapchat/webcam) before I carry on. And normally it's a one way street where they are playing the potrayal of the dominant until I retaliate them into being submissive.
    And trust me, I rarely send anything back, as when they do it, they don't expect anything in return.
     
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    Women are constantly barraged with messages that tell them that their only worth is as a sexual being. We are also told that we have to use sexuality as a tool to get what we want. I think in most cases the reason that women send nude pictures is more rooted in low self-esteem than in 'overwhelming confidence and eroticism'. We all want to feel loved and appreciated and the messages we receive lead us to believe that the only way to get these is by using our bodies as bait. Of course, there are probably some exceptions with more narcissistic women who just enjoy the thrill of having their naked bodies on display for the world, but I think those are in the minority.

    I was asked once to send nude pictures and I refused. I told him that if he wanted to see me naked it had to be in person so I would get something out of it too. His message back was 'well played', whatever that meant.
     
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    Indeed it is. I've actually meant a few people who have gotten charged doing that in a resulting of a twisted revenge. But how cold hearted does someone have to be to do such a thing? Lol.
     
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    I agree with you 100%. It's never for what they want exactly, but hey, I'm sure those guys aren't complaining haha.
     
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    Indeed. Everyone has different motives as I've seen. And when it comes to misusing, I actually treasure these women more than often, as I've felt they've created a stronger bond by doing this.

    And do you still keep those pictures of your previous girlfriends, or have you disposed of them?
     
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    I love the movie Sixteen Candles. I could probably recite it word for word, but I also remember the wise words of Farmer Ted:

    [video=youtube;S-6uHu71kpk]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-6uHu71kpk[/video]

    <---- has NEVER taken a nude photo. It doesn't mean I'm less sexually expressive, but I do think it's possible that it decreases sensitivity towards images of nudity of the same person (for 17 years.) This is probably why Mr.S runs into the bathroom anytime I'm undressing for a shower. :D
     
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