Teenage Dating and the influence of Gender

I don't think either behaviors are evidence of intelligence or stupidity. Teens are in a development process. It's more an issue of undeveloped understanding of self and relationships with people for both genders. There is also an issue of an undeveloped frontal lobe that identifies and regulates emotional responses and is the center for judgment. This area of the brain is reported as not completing development until age 25.

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Well, what happens when the 'physical' attraction turns into the real deal for both of them? Other than that, I can't add much, most guys tend to see sex as something you just 'have' to do, for love or not, something physical; while girls tend to think that sex is vastly important (It is, I suppose) and that it's a precious gift that she can give to whomever she chooses, whoever she feels is right, which is an emotional act.

This only applies to guys and girls of this bracket, btw, and slant, I find it interesting your asking this question

 

I think you forget or neglect that people of this age range actually can and do fall in love for more than just physical attraction and sex. While it may be true for a portion of this age range, many are in it for the real deal (especially the older they get).

 

then you have my pity

 

What's to pity? Love, it's all just body chemistry, anyway.

 

To me it's much more, but maybe I'm just hopeless.

 

You're not hopeless, you seem like a romantic.

 

Tactfully put.

 

As a teenager sex isn't all males want, but it's the biggest of the main desires.

I was always of the opinion that if a girl isn't going to have sex with you in a romantic relationship, she'd better be bringing a shitload of other stuff to the table. Even then however, it's only a temporary thing until the girl who will have sex comes along or she changes her mind.

It's not a harsh thing, it's a biological thing. I've already got friends I don't fuck, they're males. And if a girl is going to be a no sex girl (until she knows she loves you/until marriage/because she's afraid/events in her past/whatever), she's put into the friend zone until she brings herself out of it and that leaves the romance zone completely open.

 

Girls are prepared practically from birth to give birth. How sick is it that once a female is born, one of the first toys in her crib is a lifesized replica of herself to care for?

Females are trained to take sex as a very serious matter, a life altering matter for them. The girl child plays and plans from early on to have babies and nurture a family. By the time she is able to understand her own reproduction and sexuality, it is a much more serious matter than for the male.


Boys are encouraged to think of sex as a recreational activity. Boys are traditionally offered more options for play as children. Their entertainment does not revolve around one specific role.. The differences in attitudes from both genders are the result of social constructs.

 

Well, at least you said you realized you were speaking in stereotypes. But I dislike stereotypes so much... You've probably been around this board enough to realize INFJ males don't really fit into the male stereotype very well. Unless that's just me.

I'll be honest and say I really don't "act like a boy" as society requests. But really, what does that mean? Why do we have these stereotypes to begin with? How do we know that people do not act just to fit these stereotypes so they are not alienated from society? It could just be a neverending cycle driven by people's desire to conform and feel accepted. Or perhaps it is just hormones as you may argue. But as an emotional person, I've always believed people control their bodies with their minds (to a certain extent, of course) and not vice versa. Sure, you might feel irritable if your body is feeling sick, but I do not understand how some people can have their entire mindset changed based on something physical like hormones. I believe feelings are something more than proteins floating around in your blood.

Although I'm just a crazy abstract INFJ. I'm heterosexual and not a late bloomer or anything, but I'll definately "wait until marriage." I'd rather make sure I'm in love with the person first...

 

The solution is simple. Give girls play options all their life as well as boys, and then teach them both to use condoms.

 

They're naieve and unfortunately, not educated about these things.
The curious bright ones will see the patterns and question at least.
I think the fact that this mindset predominates shows that we're still in a patriarchal society.