Self-Care: What have you done for you lately?

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Great. Now that song with similar lyrics is stuck in my head.

What is self-care to you?
Do you have any go-to self-care activities or ideas for ways to provide self-care?
Have you taken the time and space today to care for yourself? If not, why not?

Today, for me, it was being emotionally gentle with myself and choosing grace and forgiveness. I spent some time reflecting on some critical remarks that were made to me about myself recently. Naturally, my feelings are hurt, but I reminded myself that the things people say about us usually have less to do with us and more to do with who they are. I'm certainly not perfect by any stretch, but my heart is in the right place even if I sometimes inadvertently go about showing it in the wrong ways. So I and I had a little pow-wow today about some of the things about me that are more representative of who I really am - a compassionate, loving, considerate, caring, sensitive individual. This shift in perspective took some of the sting out of the hurt and provided an opportunity for me to look back on my past and feel grateful for the fact that my personal growth has brought me to a place in my life where I'm better able to recognize in myself and others that which would only serve to tear me down so that I can instead quickly shift the focus back onto building myself and others up.
 
MoonFlier said:
You remind me of my own kiddo so much... I'm going to hug you. Coming in.
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Saturday I did my PT (all of it) - no corners cut. Took a long walk in the woods. Then drove the back roads because I love doing that and haven't in eons. I let my work sit dormant so I could do these things. I went out and did an extroverted thing in the evening that was a stretch BUT left the second it was over instead of making myself stand around either forcing myself to be social or feeling really out of place. Heading home was the best thing and I didn't look back for a second. Even though the room was filled with people I love. I had just had enough peopling.

Self-care is so important, and I have to try all over again every single day to get it right.

This morning (Sunday) I let myself sleep in and then made myself some good soup for breakfast because I feel a cold coming on. Later I'm going to get shit done because that will mean my Monday-Friday self will feel cared for and have an easier time at work.

It's easy to do self-care when my kids are away all weekend, like now. Harder during the week. I juggle a lot.

The most important self-care that I could do better is to be more gentle with myself inside my head with my expectations and criticisms.
 
Yesterday I cancelled all my social "obligations" and took the day to myself. I caught up on some sleep, treated myself to pizza, watched some relaxing lectures on YouTube and played Starcraft.
I needed that.
 
JamieUK92 said:
I’ve actually never met a female Jamie before in person. I think it’s a less popular female name in the uk than in the states. My dad used to call me “Jambo” lol
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I've been friends with both, Jamie's are pretty chill
 
Pin said:
I haven't done anything for myself at all lately. I've been working and studying. Maybe I'll get a beer.
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Aww, Pin...why you no care for you? It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure. All that working and studying will turn you into a human doing instead of a human being. Did you get that beer?

These are all really awesome ideas. @neko, your post-therapy ice cream cone tradition made me smile and feel all fuzzy.

MoonFlier said:
I kicked off my bra, poured a stongbow, revved up the video game and said "Screw it, it's Saturday."
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I've done this many a time, except with a different drink. I think you must be my spirit animal. :laughing:

worthy said:
Self-care is so important, and I have to try all over again every single day to get it right.
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Maybe this isn't what you mean by "get it right", but I don't think there is any particularly right way to self-care. As long as you're doing it, you're getting it right. :blush: All of the things that have been mentioned here so far count; it can be something as simple as blowing off steam by playing video games all day on a Saturday (I know from experience lol) or soaking in a hot bath, or some of the not-so-easy stuff like forgiving oneself for not meeting your own impossible standards or letting go of a toxic relationship/friendship. It sounds like you're doing a fine job at self-care. :<3yellow:
 
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