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    This is true. It's called genomic imprinting.

    Carry on.
     
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    A mod said it, therefore my earlier entreaty is invalid. Yes, carry on, brothers :D
     
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    Yes that's exactly right. Inclusive fitness explains everything that group selection does. So again, why are holding onto it like its "necessary". It isn't. Group Selection is completely redundant.

    Self sacrificial genes are also explained by kin selection. You don't need group selection to do it. Whats more, this still doesn't overcome all of those problems that Pinker outlined.
     
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    Wait the forum's MEMEs are now in my genes and I've ruined my jeans? One hell of a Monday.
     
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    Having one eye on the absurdity of it all is a useful suicide prevention strategy, I agree.
     
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    I'm not a geneticist so am not going to comment on the last several comments circulating about that.

    I sometimes think that people who say "relax, it's just a joke" really are joking, and in other situations they're saying something they think to be true about the other person but don't want to have a serious discussion about it so they try to pass it off as a joke. Then we have times where one person makes fun of another in front of a group of people to try to elevate their own popularity or to seem like they're funny but they take it too far to the point of humiliation. I think there's a difference between playfully teasing and humiliating someone. I mean, obviously.

    In terms of our own personal responsibility, if I feel humiliated by someone it's up to me to let that person know that a boundary was crossed because clearly they either didn't know the boundary or if they did, they didn't respect it. It's up to that individual to decide whether or not they care and if they're going to do anything with it. I can say how I feel, and that's all that I can do outside of managing my expectations around the result. If that person doesn't give me the result I want, I have to decide whether or not I'm going to force the issue or if I'm going to walk away knowing that I can't trust that person under certain conditions. I then have to decide if what they said means something about me, but that is going to depend on how emotionally developed I am and how strong my own personal sense of identity is. I don't find myself particularly vulnerable to this kind of thing NOW, but 5-10 years ago and especially in childhood something like this would have really fucked me up because I had too many competing mental/emotional things going on to take on one single more pain point.

    Can we expect someone to come around and say "I'm sorry, I didn't realize that was a sensitive issue for you," or otherwise apologise? Maybe. But we might find ourselves continuously disappointed. I don't know the answer.
     
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    What is disappointing about being apologized to? Maybe I'm not following here
     
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    Sorry, I should have more clearly stated that we won't always get that from someone despite our expectations.
     
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    Ohh! Haha I read it wrong really, my bad
     
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    I liked his perspective as a comedian. Especially at 3:40 minutes in.
    Keyword that stuck with me: "Recreational outrage."

     
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