Altruistic Muse
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I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend right now. It's a mutual decision and very amicable, and more "drawing a line under things" than actually breaking up forever. He is going away to work offshore for a few years, as well as moving home 300 miles away, and I have done, and hated with a passion, the whole long distance thing. So we both thought it best to call it a day while things were happy, and to just have a last month enjoying eachother's company before he goes. And I guess we'll see what happens!
Now that I know that is happening though, I am looking at things to change in my life. I don't know if this is the same with you guys, but whenever something painful happens, staying as I am and thinking about it is the most painful thing of all! What I seem to do, is make a lot of changes so that there are so many new things to think about that the old things cannot upset me. For example, when i split up with my ex, I started a new course, a new job, and my new life was unrecognisable (and so much happier) to my old one that I was able to move on happily.
With the prospect of another break up, I am thinking I might move somewhere. My bf thinks I should do this to broaden my horizons (and I think it would make him feel better that I've got new stuff to do while his whole life is changing too). So I am applying for jobs all over the country. Is this a strange way of doing things or does it keep me sane? Hard to know!
Now that I know that is happening though, I am looking at things to change in my life. I don't know if this is the same with you guys, but whenever something painful happens, staying as I am and thinking about it is the most painful thing of all! What I seem to do, is make a lot of changes so that there are so many new things to think about that the old things cannot upset me. For example, when i split up with my ex, I started a new course, a new job, and my new life was unrecognisable (and so much happier) to my old one that I was able to move on happily.
With the prospect of another break up, I am thinking I might move somewhere. My bf thinks I should do this to broaden my horizons (and I think it would make him feel better that I've got new stuff to do while his whole life is changing too). So I am applying for jobs all over the country. Is this a strange way of doing things or does it keep me sane? Hard to know!