I’ve been in a relationship with an ENFP for most of 2018 and we recently started living together. Emotionally, physically, mentally and in every way we are a great compliment to one another. We share a lot of the same interests, hobbies and we are always reading each other’s minds. He is so in tune to my emotions, that any slight upset, he picks up on it despite my efforts to deny.
Lately, I’ve been feeling as though our connection is a little skewed. Almost like wearing a shoe on the wrong foot. It fits, but it’s not the perfect alignment I’m used to. I’ve been supporting him lately in his upset over a ghosting from his sister. They were super close and she basically ghosted the whole family because they didn’t approve of her boyfriend. No surprise to me that she chose the significant other. Their standards of family loyalty is pretty intense. I believe it’s a cultural difference but it makes me feel odd nonetheless.
He is super sentimental and keeps cards, ticket stubs, photos, etc of things he wants to remember. But I’ve noticed that he keeps a lot of his sisters old stuff. To the point that in the back of our bathroom drawers, he has her old hair ties, makeup, razors, hair products, etc. Things she left behind at her parents house when she left. He went and took them. He also has hung multiple pieces of artwork around the apartment that belonged to her, kept party cups that were hers, the list goes on. Any mention of her name and he bursts into tears. I don’t know why...but this has made me really uncomfortable and weirded out. I feel like it’s caused a huge disconnection in our otherwise perfectly fitted relationship.
Anyone have any experiences with ENFPs or with people who are strangely close to their siblings? I feel like he’s almost in love with her. Is it an insecurity on my part?
I feel like being an INFJ, I always end up feeling alone with many relationships. Romantic or platonic. My natural state is to always think about how my behavior will affect someone else close to the scenario. I don’t want to ever give wrong impressions, miscommunication, etc. But there doesn’t seem to be a lot of people with the same conviction.
Help.
Lately, I’ve been feeling as though our connection is a little skewed. Almost like wearing a shoe on the wrong foot. It fits, but it’s not the perfect alignment I’m used to. I’ve been supporting him lately in his upset over a ghosting from his sister. They were super close and she basically ghosted the whole family because they didn’t approve of her boyfriend. No surprise to me that she chose the significant other. Their standards of family loyalty is pretty intense. I believe it’s a cultural difference but it makes me feel odd nonetheless.
He is super sentimental and keeps cards, ticket stubs, photos, etc of things he wants to remember. But I’ve noticed that he keeps a lot of his sisters old stuff. To the point that in the back of our bathroom drawers, he has her old hair ties, makeup, razors, hair products, etc. Things she left behind at her parents house when she left. He went and took them. He also has hung multiple pieces of artwork around the apartment that belonged to her, kept party cups that were hers, the list goes on. Any mention of her name and he bursts into tears. I don’t know why...but this has made me really uncomfortable and weirded out. I feel like it’s caused a huge disconnection in our otherwise perfectly fitted relationship.
Anyone have any experiences with ENFPs or with people who are strangely close to their siblings? I feel like he’s almost in love with her. Is it an insecurity on my part?
I feel like being an INFJ, I always end up feeling alone with many relationships. Romantic or platonic. My natural state is to always think about how my behavior will affect someone else close to the scenario. I don’t want to ever give wrong impressions, miscommunication, etc. But there doesn’t seem to be a lot of people with the same conviction.
Help.