NF's who love their Family

I'm tired, but:

1) My family is great, in a very good place. Some dings and scrapes along the way but all in all very normal.

2) Love is the only true wealth.

 

I agree about what's out there, but don't believe family is exempt from that. Blood means NOTHING. Your true family is one you make and choose. Even then, they are still subject to change.

Take my grandma for example. She used to be fairly nice if a bit bitter, then got a brain bleed and the already embittered woman turned into mean manipulative psycho with a grudge to settle against everyone in sight. The same can happen with sugar disease and a bunch of other body chemical or brain influencing effects.

My sisters are both types that are highly extravert and convinced of their world views. I being me am able to barely avoid the minefields in speaking with them, but how can I maintain an actually deep bond with someone who feels the need to enforce their views, which I don't always agree with on someone? They don't inquire after how I am doing in person, it's always through my brother or father, they never call unlike I. So honestly, I gave up on them and I take whatever contact we have with a grain of salt, superficial like them and politely, just being happy that they at least seem to be doing well for themselves in their own little worlds.

My brother and I get along swimmingly. Sure we disagree on something's, but we don't actually are the types of people who feel the need to enforce our opinions on another and simply share our opinion, not caring if someone has a different one. My dad and I get along well, tough he and my mum are divorced. My mum however is also rather manipulative and tries to play the sad pitiful person card when I know she's one of the toughest negotiators I know who ALWAYS manages to get what she wants, so I keep an emotional distance from her not to be dragged along by her antics.

My stepmom is nice on the whole, but a bit bossy and lays into me from time to time when she's having a bad day, usually on subjects that are stressing me out like my recent decline in freelance work, which is a worldwide issue, and she seems to have this impression it's just my issue because she doesn't really get anything digital. That's okay tough, because I know it comes from a good place, and my dad tends to give me a pad on the shoulder and just say something like: "Women... Don't worry tough, I get it... Got a cold beer?"

My dad, brother (and his kids) and stepmom to me are my family. Everyone else... they're emotionally just acquaintances because I'm just in for disappointment and grief if I view them differently. We don't fight, it's just that there isn't any real interest or connection between them, I and the rest of the family. They're social status types and casuals like I are only interesting to converse with if we talk ourselves and our lifestyles up.

For example, my choice of words would be much more to their liking if my home, which is slowly becoming a homestead would be referred to as my cottage in the countryside. I think you get it from there...

So yeah, Family to me is not defined by blood, but by your genuine connection to someone through thick and thin, for better and worse.

 

Same.

 

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