Don't make it your goal to get a girlfriend/partner/spouse. Make it your goal to lead an exciting, passionate, purposeful life. The rest will follow naturally.
Partial truth.
I know it's counter-intuitive and counter-your-nature, but don't get into such serious and heavy conversations when you first contact people. Dating is light-hearted and fun, not a philosophy exam. Don't act like the millions of other boring guys who drool over women when they pay the slightest attention to you. You're a man, not a neglected puppy.
Partial truth. There is actually a huge gulf between how I communicate online and how I communicate in person. I am expressive on forums and dull in person in the advent of health issues.
The energy has changed since then to what it used to be when I was young and knew had I had that kind of energy this discussion would be entirely different than it stands.
Your goal when dating online should be to move towards an initial face-to-face meeting so you can actually assess each other to see if you'll hit it off. Physical presence is much more important than a lot of people realise. It's the fairest thing for both parties involved. Don't get involved in some long, drawn out discussion disguised as "getting to know each other better" before making the all-important move to face-to-face meeting in a neutral public space, such as a cafe + art gallery outing.
And that is a crucial element, presence, to have the presence and demenour in personality to become the instrument of change that creates the flow of energy. And this energy and presence by in large until recently has been absent. And had it continued this advice you have given me would be less effective than it is now. For it is a presence of consciousness where in this time reality we are able to manifest that which is our self belief and confidence eternal when genuine flow on effect starts happening.
I oozed charisma when I was young, this like a light bulb switched off and much of my life has been spent in pursuit of reactivating the personality matrix that became lost in translation of who I am you know. For I believe in synchronicity, positive syncing and negative syncing and the longer the energy goes towards that manifestation that is most wanted, like a revolution, we do bring into awareness this quality and then the manifestation of the kind of people we want happen in our lives sooner. When out of alignment the bridge between the intervals is longer, when in alignment the bridge between the intervals of experience and receiving that which is wanted are happening is along a shorter time frame. And then it is as it is, at that point when the intersection of awareness happens does the person create the manifestations of a personal nature. From that foundational infrastructure in allowing the relationship that creates passion and intensity the flow of energy in being present and conscious happens.
I very much doubt that having a purposeful life alone will create the environment for the right kinds of women to meet up with me when I am out of alignment to my endevours. It is only when you reach a certain point and this I say is difficult for a great many to understand and reconnect with the spirit body, bring into the self the conscious template of change towards a creator mentality can there be peace.
And the ridiculous games and double standards that are reinforced amidst society, indeed western culture is such that false premises and partial ones are created from birth and nestled as our core beliefs and values. This wouldn't be the case if fear and control wasn't so prevalent throughout history in every form, whether political, religious, scientific, military, relationships, the whole lot. There is a lot of misconception when it comes to that.
But of course I just want to date and your advice is very sound.
Thank you for taking the time to write your thoughtful response.
