So, I'm an INFJ woman in a lesbian relationship with an ENFP. We've been together for almost 5 years. The relationship was magical in the beginning. We complemented each other perfectly. She would put up with my mood swings and what not. I've calmed down a lot and became very stable. I would energize her in return and try to mentally stimulate her, but.... the relationship became very boring since 4 years ago and I am referring as in sexually and mentally. I do love her but am I in love ? I don't think so to be honest. I don't think she's on my level, intellectually. She's so not a creative person. She has a hard time understanding my ideas, my abstract concepts... so now I just keep them to myself.
Now, believe me when I say I've talked to her about this hundreds and hundreds of times. I swear I have. I've told her that she needs to spice things up in bed 100s of times but nothing ever changes. She is robotic, not creative at all. Her sex drive is so low compared to mine. I just always felt like there was more and I even became very depressed for a period of time because I thought there was something wrong with me.
I met this INTP woman online a few months ago. I wasn't deliberately looking to cheat, I swear. She simply added me and since then, things grew slowly but steadily and one day, we both realized we had feelings for each other even though we are both in relationships. When I say I have feelings for her, I mean I am going crazy for her. I had never met anyone so charming, someone that made me feel this type of rush without even touching me. It's as if I have always been missing something in relationships, I never knew what it was but it now it all makes sense. I am legit out of my mind. The way that I connect with her emotionally, intellectually and in all other ways is insane. It's making me doubt everything I've ever known about love.
I know I already am kind of bored and hopeless about my relationship but has anyone ever experienced something similar ? Seriously. The INFJ and INTP bond is otherworldly.
Now, believe me when I say I've talked to her about this hundreds and hundreds of times. I swear I have. I've told her that she needs to spice things up in bed 100s of times but nothing ever changes. She is robotic, not creative at all. Her sex drive is so low compared to mine. I just always felt like there was more and I even became very depressed for a period of time because I thought there was something wrong with me.
I met this INTP woman online a few months ago. I wasn't deliberately looking to cheat, I swear. She simply added me and since then, things grew slowly but steadily and one day, we both realized we had feelings for each other even though we are both in relationships. When I say I have feelings for her, I mean I am going crazy for her. I had never met anyone so charming, someone that made me feel this type of rush without even touching me. It's as if I have always been missing something in relationships, I never knew what it was but it now it all makes sense. I am legit out of my mind. The way that I connect with her emotionally, intellectually and in all other ways is insane. It's making me doubt everything I've ever known about love.
I know I already am kind of bored and hopeless about my relationship but has anyone ever experienced something similar ? Seriously. The INFJ and INTP bond is otherworldly.