I was looking on another board that was talking about INFJ doorslam. Someone described as a "tactic" used by INFJ, like it was a form of manipulation or control. At the very least this person thought it was a controllable decision.
Personally I feel like it's a deep part of my brain that door slams. If I do it, it's after I have given the person EVERY opportunity to redeem themselves, but they screwed me yet again. Granted, it's sudden. A switch flips and it's over. There have been times when I wish I coukd make it work though. I might even try to speak to them if hopes of feeling differently, but the door is shut. Emotionally they are dead to me.
Do you feel the same way, or do you plan a door slam?
Personally I feel like it's a deep part of my brain that door slams. If I do it, it's after I have given the person EVERY opportunity to redeem themselves, but they screwed me yet again. Granted, it's sudden. A switch flips and it's over. There have been times when I wish I coukd make it work though. I might even try to speak to them if hopes of feeling differently, but the door is shut. Emotionally they are dead to me.
Do you feel the same way, or do you plan a door slam?