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The whole personal example of my own existence thing is flawed because MBTI is flawed enough that few of us are sure of our types. Using ourselves as examples for a type when we may not be that type isn't the best route. Yet, how else can we discuss this? No idea, unless we all run off to the internet to study cognitive function (which sounds appealing, but I have stuff to do).
All that said, during this entire conversation my reactions were somewhere in between on the examples, but far less emotional than the stereotype of what Thinkers perceive Feelers to be like. There is a misconception about how the functions are supposed to work, accompanies by individual sensitivity, social conditioning, etc.
For example, like Moonflier, the only part of Slant's story I was "touched" by was the father watching his son die. The story was gross, but just another story about sick people murdering others.
If a friend were talking about her dogs I'd be all ears, because I'm a dog person. I typically reserve my dog discussions for other dog people. If you hurt my dogs I will hurt you worse.
I care about humanity and problems like starvation and homelessness. Humans should use their minds to solve these problems. So much brain power goes to waste.
However, I live in a secluded place away from people on purpose.
Unlike many Feelers, I do not think love is the greatest thing about life. Romantic love is often completely silly, a waste of time and energy, and often a cover-up for lust. I value kindness and compassion far above romantic love. Ours minds are the greatest thing about being alive. We have so much potential, both individually and collectively.
Though I talk about emotional stuff on the forum, that is how I relate to the forum - it's purpose. Among most friends I'd rather discuss ideas unless I'm with a friend who is a strong Feeler. I'm more excited by meeting up with INTPs and INTJs so we can talk about philosophy, theology, art, music, literature, science, politics, etc.
Sitting around watching sports, movies, or TV seems like hell for me when people could be doing any other activity where they're actively using their brains. I do play video games but at least this involves making my own decisions.
I do have strong feelings and I do cry. I care. I'm interested in humans and the human experience. I'm interested in animal welfare.
I can't say what being a person with Primary Feeling is like.
I think there are many types that aren't clearly a thinker or feeler. This is reserved for those that are dominant; those that strongly prefer. Thinking and feeling aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. There are times when one strategy makes more sense than the other. It takes wisdom to know the best course of action.
Theoretically, INTJs are closer to INFJs, in respect to the T/F dichotomy. Many INTJs have strong feeling preferences, which makes them seem INFJish and many INFJs have strong thinking preferences, which makes them seem INTJish. The lines can be very blurred. Many of INJs with clear T/F preferences fit the stereotypes more, and are closer to T/F dominants.
It's those with the strongest preferences that have a difficult accepting those with mixed preferences. A thinker could seem very much like a feeler, and visa versa.
I agree with much of what you said about love and romantic relationships. I would much rather focus on ideas and understanding than what I think are unrealistic notions of intimate relations.
