When it comes to people that emotionally abuse me or physically do something gross or unsafe, you're pretty much gone. Even if you apologized it'd be hard for me to come back. And I have shut people out that have done this. People in my own family even. And I find it rather easy to do especially since no effort of apology was ever made.
Same thing for me. Apologies only go so far and at some point I have to see someone trying to change or make our relationship better in order to even want to stay around.
to the OP:
1) when do you do this? And why?
- I do it when I am in a relationship/friendship that is unhealthy (or has become unhealthy) and starting to decrease my quality of life and mental stability.
2) did you ever do it?
- Yes I have. I just recently was forced to do it about a month ago with someone I had grown really close to. She had finally gone off the deep end (although with how much she lies, she might have been there already) and I was being emotionally abused, used, and taken advantage of. The moment where I said "enough is enough" came when she physically assaulted her mother and then blamed her mother for kicking her out, saying that it was all her fault, and then blamed me for being "too much like her mother". She hasn't taken responsibility for one thing she has done to me or anyone else since I met her. She is one of the most selfish and cruel-hearted people I know. She intentionally flirts with and provokes men in committed relationships to try to get them to cheat, and she loves doing it. I can go on and on. But since cutting her out of my life, which took two tries, I have been happier, less stressed, and able to enjoy my own life so much more. It is amazing how much one person can bring you down.
3) is it specific to nfj's? Or at least most frequent among them?
I do not think so. However I do believe that INFJs attract mentally / emotionally unstable partners more than any other mbti type. Weird, huh?
4) do you manage to go through with it 100%?
Yes I have. However each time I was not able to go through with it 100% the first time. One time it took me over 13 different "reconnections" to realize what I was doing. Recently, it was twice.