At least by one author (mostly), what's your view? Is it valid or invalid?
http://ideas.ted.com/2014/01/23/10-facts-about-infidelity-helen-fisher/
http://ideas.ted.com/2014/01/23/10-facts-about-infidelity-helen-fisher/
Well, there is a lot there, and they cited research for each claim it seems.
That being said, even if all of their claims are true, like even if there turns out to be a gene for cheating, I still cannot accept it. Maybe I believe very strongly in free will, but it seems to me like having an affair is always a choice that someone makes.
I mostly agree.
Look, anyone who has ever been in a long term relationship (say, 6+ months) has, at some point, wanted to fuck the hell out of another person who isn't their mate. If they deny it, they're probably lying or have a low sex drive. It's just part of life.
I'm all for not doing it (monogamy), but I can't stand it when someone wants me to play along with a socially constructed fantasy where it's never felt in the first place. It's a lie and I won't go along with it just because someone has deposited their sense of self-esteem into my perceptions. Fuck off with that.
Any girl I've dated has wanted a dick other than mine and I've wanted to put my dick in another girl. Always, at some point along the way. It doesn't bother me. I just laugh about it and get back to whatever I was doing.
I sense you feel strongly about this, although I dont think the vulgarity and swearing are necessary to the point.
I'm single and have spent much of my life single, apart from one time when I was at uni and decided cynically to steal peoples girlfriends and really test my skills as a pick up artist, those "relationships" sucked and they fed that cynical part of me, however I would not say that this is anymore natural than the condition I've experienced for the rest of my life of being single and not expecting random hook ups to be the norm or looking for someone who understands commitment the same way as me.
I dont really think of this topic in terms first and foremost of judgementalism and condemnation BTW, perhaps that is deserved if someone is totally selfish and cyncial and either aiming to or not caring if they hurt people or not.