OrangeLizzard
Newbie
- MBTI
- INFJ
I don’t know why but I never feel comfortable when I leave my house and step foot into the “real world”. For some reason I just feel I’m leaving my real self at home and whenever I step out I’m more guarded and not authentic. Because of this belief that the real me is at home, I just feel fake when I interact with strangers. I act friendly and do the basic “hello, how are you” and things like that but I’m just so lost and feel vulnerable on the inside yet on the outside I’m projecting this false persona. I hate it. I don’t feel sincere. People can pick up on that as well and I end up feeling embarrassed by my efforts.
But how can I be sincere when I’m so uncomfortable? When I talk to people and do these things it’s actually hard for me because by nature I’m more reserved and am the type to open up to people once I get to know them. I’m not the type of person who speaks comfortably with people I don’t know and the only way for me to do so is to put on my extrovert act otherwise I’ll come across more dry and give short answers to things. I don’t want to want to make people uncomfortable by letting them do all the work but I feel so insincere when I have to socialize and it is killing me.
All my friends and family do this so naturally it seems I’m the only one who feels like an alien. How can people reveal who they are to others so naturally and with such ease? I just feel more cautious with strangers and aware so I’m more careful and it comes across as awkward. I have no personality to show when I'm on guard.
Does anyone else feel this way and how do you navigate it?
But how can I be sincere when I’m so uncomfortable? When I talk to people and do these things it’s actually hard for me because by nature I’m more reserved and am the type to open up to people once I get to know them. I’m not the type of person who speaks comfortably with people I don’t know and the only way for me to do so is to put on my extrovert act otherwise I’ll come across more dry and give short answers to things. I don’t want to want to make people uncomfortable by letting them do all the work but I feel so insincere when I have to socialize and it is killing me.
All my friends and family do this so naturally it seems I’m the only one who feels like an alien. How can people reveal who they are to others so naturally and with such ease? I just feel more cautious with strangers and aware so I’m more careful and it comes across as awkward. I have no personality to show when I'm on guard.
Does anyone else feel this way and how do you navigate it?