How much of our lives to we control?

I too try to strike a balance, King. I think that's the healthiest thing, if you can achieve it. Much of the past 2 years I have come to realize that I feel as though I have very little control over my life (which has a great deal to do with my husband's job). I'm trying to stick it out, and make as much of it mine as I can... but it's hard sometimes.

 

The Order of Shai Gar holds that the more understanding we have about the society around us, the environment around us and our selves, the greater control we can have over ourselves. The more we are able to control ourselves (not abstinence, but control), the more we are able to control our entire lives.

The aim of TOoSG is to control our entire lives from moment of awakening to the end of our lives.

Since I AM Shai Gar, That's obviously my belief. We can control our entire lives, if only we understand that we can never allow others to have any control over it.

 

This post looks suspiciously like advertising to me...

 

Oh no, I'm elucidating the beliefs of my religion

 

ENTPs also have the unique ability to make a deal with their conscience. They can successfully justify almost any wrong doing, thus ensuring that they will sleep well at night.

 

hahaha, ayup.

 

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Nobody can have control of their life, at least the external part. There are things out of our control, such as political movements, religions, what other people choose to do and in what ways the effect us which we cannot completely control. Like a rock climber, we prepare for the predictable mishaps such as falling rocks and make sure we have our footing, but there is not much we can do other than that.

What we do control is our own behaviours and thoughts. I realize that my attitude towards life is completely shaped towards what I want it to be like. I can interpret an event any way I want to. If a stranger flips me off, I can choose to react with the pre-programmed angry response, or I can choose not to react at all. You are in charge. Of course, such a tight leash on emotions and feelings can be self-destructive if you don't have an activity that releases them. Everyone has their own 'hobby' that works for them.

How much control do we have over our lives? A small fraction. But it's molding that sliver into what we want it to be that is our challenge in life.

 

You can choose where you live, How you live, the people you influence and how others influence you. Religions are just people who can be talked around to your point of view if you talk good enough.

That's what life is, people, history is the conversations and results of the conversations of people.

 

You have potential control over what you are aware of.

 

I said until the end of your life. You'd have controlled your life up to that point and your life would be the end result of how you wished to live it.

Anonymously assassinate the leader. Also assassinate anyone else who tries to lead your country to war against your will... Or change countries.

Excluding genetic disorders, yes.

Depends on where the cancer develops. I don't believe that anyone under the age of 30 (in developed nations) should be allowed access to medical treatment for skin cancer, or lung cancer (if developed from smoking) or any other preventable diseases because there has been constant warnings and public service announcements informing you to wear a long sleeved shirt, put on skin cancer and wear a wide brimmed hat (baseball caps and beanies just don't cut it).

Most cancer is preventable depending on lifestyle choices.

There are new medical advancements to help that. Hair Implants.

Your life is not The Universe. You can control your life and how you react to anything, you can read meteorological histories and predictions of every part of the globe, you then can choose where to live based on that.

 

I try to have as much control over my life as I possiblly can. Of course, there is going to be many things out of my control, or kinds of divine planing. I just have to trust it is all happening for a reason, and that usually gets me through it, and proves to be true

 

Not one of us controls where or what we are born into. That is the main reason that I believe we do not have nearly as much control over our lives as we think we do. Behaviour patterns are built up from the earliest years that we are on this planet and I believe there is so much of our lives that depends on that environment.

I trained to become a ballet dancer and my life was absolutely about control. I had a good physique for dance and I was convinced that if I worked as hard as possible then I would naturally become a dancer. I was willing to work 10 hour days and push my body to the limit. I was doing well but I had not realized that I was working against an autoimmune muscle disorder. When I reached the stage of having almost no control over my body, I learned a huge, massive lesson. It is not until you cannot use your muscles that you realize how many there are!! I've also had cancer issues and so your comments Shai just seem completely ignorant to me. I was incredibly health conscious and very, very fit. My life has been absolutely pulled apart by many things (mainly my health issues) that were totally out of my control. I know first hand that when you do not have your health, you don't have much control at all.

I do think we can influence our lives and do a lot to help ourselves find some happiness but I do not think there is such a thing as controlling everything about our lives.

 

What you seem to be describing seems somewhat spiritual in nature.
I just have troubles accepting religious, spiritual, and scientific beliefs because even with Science where there is proven 'evidence', the fact of the matter is that the reason Science, Math, English and Religion were invented were to keep up preoccupied, to keep a certain order. If we did not have these things to agree with, disagree with [ basically consume us] there would be nothing. But I cannot rightfully agree with any of them knowing that they are just devices designed to captivate our attention and put 'meaning' in life.

 

Yeah she was in control of that. I could show you how, but you'd need to tell me how she died? Was she Jaywalking? Crossing at a Zebra Crossing and not looking both ways before crossing? Did the car chase her down a dead end alley and then slam her into the wall?