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HOW do you do it INFJs????

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I am flopping around like a sad dying fish over some dude who hurt my feelings. It’s absolutely ridiculous and unwarranted. There is zero logic to feeling this way over this guy, in this situation. Yet, I remain the salted slug before you.


How do you people stand it? HOW? How do you run around feeling your feelings all of the time? this is horrible. I do not understand. How on earth can you take this all of the time????
 
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We are the schrodinger's cats of emotions, both feeling and unfeeling simultaneously.

Which is actually more confusing and terrible than you can possibly imagine.
 
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I don’t know? But not sure it’s accurately questioning either philosophy or religion. Or discussing.

I think I meant to put it in psychology. But I’ve had a beer and I’m not a giant person. It doesn’t take much.
 
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noisebloom said:
INFJs are like teddy bears, but the kind that have a seam ripped open, so when you hug them some of the stuffing comes out, and eventually they just hemorrhage cotton everywhere and die
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it is simply our life. since it is all we know, it is a normal state of being. it's not crazy or weird, or mind boggling, it just is. . I do it because it is who and what I am
 
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Dopamine said:
I am flopping around like a sad dying fish over some dude who hurt my feelings. It’s absolutely ridiculous and unwarranted. There is zero logic to feeling this way over this guy, in this situation. Yet, I remain the salted slug before you.


How do you people stand it? HOW? How do you run around feeling your feelings all of the time? this is horrible. I do not understand. How on earth can you take this all of the time????
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You work on emotional regulation and having healthy outlets to sort through emotions. Once you have these skills you no longer are a victim of your emotional state but empowered by it. The more important thing is to take ownership of how you feel and not to blame the external; to understand that you can control your attitude and how you react to what happens and it's up to you to figure out your own methods of regulating.

I would highly recommend cognitive behavioral therapy techniques, that's a great place to start.
 
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Aneirin said:
it is simply our life. since it is all we know, it is a normal state of being. it's not crazy or weird, or mind boggling, it just is. . I do it because it is who and what I am
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I admire the strength. But thank god I’m T dominant, only slightly but enough. I don’t think it’s better! Please understand that- feelings are really hard.
 
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slant said:
You work on emotional regulation and having healthy outlets to sort through emotions. Once you have these skills you no longer are a victim of your emotional state but empowered by it. The more important thing is to take ownership of how you feel and not to blame the external; to understand that you can control your attitude and how you react to what happens and it's up to you to figure out your own methods of regulating.

I would highly recommend cognitive behavioral therapy techniques, that's a great place to start.
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CBT is very useful....I get what you are saying. Again not casting global judgment on which is better T of F- I’m just in wonder that people can feel all of the time and not go insane. I test on the Myers Briggs as an INTP with a 1% T. That used to make me wonder if I was really an INFP or a true split- Nope. This shit right here, I am definitely an INTP.
 
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Dopamine said:
I admire the strength. But thank god I’m T dominant, only slightly but enough. I don’t think it’s better! Please understand that- feelings are really hard.
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they have gotten me into trouble more than once, but they have also steered me clear a time or two as well. . .
 
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Aneirin said:
they have gotten me into trouble more than once, but they have also steered me clear a time or two as well. . .
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incredible. Hanging out with my feelings too much is like eating Mc Donald’s or Taco Bell for weeks at a time. It might be fun but there are consequences. (Again not claiming that all feelings are toxic fast food dump- just from my own personal feelings perspective).
 
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Dopamine said:
CBT is very useful....I get what you are saying. Again not casting global judgment on which is better T of F- I’m just in wonder that people can feel all of the time and not go insane. I test on the Myers Briggs as an INTP with a 1% T. That used to make me wonder if I was really an INFP or a true split- Nope. This shit right here, I am definitely an INTP.
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Everyone has feelings. T vs F does not mean Fs experience more emotions. It's usually just that T types repress and do not express their emotions, whereas F types express and explore their emotions.

We both have T and F and can develop both sides of ourselves as we see fit. All that's being tested is your predispositions , this is not something that is fixed or life defining. We know from neuroplasticity that the brain is malleable and subject to change. I would caution against taking letters too seriously.
 
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Dopamine said:
I am flopping around like a sad dying fish over some dude who hurt my feelings. It’s absolutely ridiculous and unwarranted. There is zero logic to feeling this way over this guy, in this situation. Yet, I remain the salted slug before you.


How do you people stand it? HOW? How do you run around feeling your feelings all of the time? this is horrible. I do not understand. How on earth can you take this all of the time????
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How long have you been feeling this way?
 
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