How would a typical guy react to a reply to his "hey there, beautiful" message (he has not contacted me in over a week, and I know he wasn't busy):
"Hi J, I just feel like you are not really into me. Hey, that's OK, we can still be friends. Cheers."
I mean, you are clearly telling him that it's over because you feel he isn't making much of an effort. If he tries for a bit afterwords and still does the same thing, should I tell him again that I don't feel he is really into me or break it off completely?
Basically, I am trying to get this guy to act......either step up or leave. He is playing limbo it seems....
I have never understood the concept of "dating" someone that you have never met in person, but alright. I see it happens, but it doesn't seem to turn out well for most people. Very much 'hit or miss' with more emphasis on the latter. Or maybe you have met him in person and continued online? I'm going to operate under the assumption that you haven't met in person, since I don't see it stated otherwise.
When the person doesn't live close by, a meet-up usually doesn't happen and you end up having a fake internet relationship until someones computer breaks. Or they find a real-life local person that they can bond and have real sex with. Let's be honest, meeting-up isn't as easy as it sounds. Rome isn't too far from Madrid but it definitely isn't too close. I think it's approximately 20 hours by train. Getting there, spending time with you, and then getting back is a mini vacation.
Does he work? He would need time off but might not have the time to do so. Does he make good money? If he doesn't, maybe he can't afford the trip and time off. Is he unemployed? Again, can't afford. Does he have a wife? Kids you don't know about? Can't go. Too busy. So many things to consider.
Maybe he has a good reason for not coming to see you right way, like the ones I mentioned minus the kid/wife scenario. Did you ask him what the hold up was?
Also, start saying what you mean instead of beating around the bush. No more 'you don't have time for me, but we can still be friends' just so that you can get a reaction. That's silly. Whether he likes you or not he will say 'of course I have time for you'. He doesn't want to look like a dick. Tell him you like him and you want to make solid plans to meet each other. If he can't do this then ask what the problem is. You might be able to help find a solution.
If he continues to lead you on with no results then end communication. But before you tell him that you no longer want to continue chatting, make sure you're serious about it. Mean what you say and be done with him. If you say one thing but mean another, you will definitely get played for a fool because that's how you will portray yourself.