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[INFJ] Help needed: how to approach an INFJ?

Eventhorizon gets crap all the time, and never shuts up.
I'll hear you out
 
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ignore? That will only cut you off from the rest of the forum
 
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Ok.. I have bad social skills as every INTP (I can be very outgoing using Ne but it is impossible to fake Fe all the time). I am socially inexperienced, so I prefer someone closer to my level in that regard. I am also young looking so nobody can guess my age 8) So, why not?
 
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why not date someone under the age of consent? um...
Well because "consent".
Young people are easily impressionable, and will make decisions they will regret later, if so prompted
 
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It's a moral thing. like taking advantage of someone who doesn't know better, though you and they may think they do. It's just not right
 
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Icedream said:
why not date someone under the age of consent? um...
Well because "consent".
Young people are easily impressionable, and will make decisions they will regret later, if so prompted
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Icedream said:
It's a moral thing. like taking advantage of someone who doesn't know better, though you and they may think they do. It's just not right
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This is not the case. She is not that young. I am also uninterested in "using" anybody. If I am not interested in marrying a girl, I am not going to pursue her. It would be awful and just waste of time.
 
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I don't want to share because of deleting/editing policy. I can only tell that she is not underage.
 
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how do you expect me to believe that?
 
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INTP user said:
This is not the case. She is not that young. I am also uninterested in "using" anybody. If I am not interested in marrying a girl, I am not going to pursue her. It would be awful and just waste of time.
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Dude.

You've said in this thread that you barely know this person at all. You have a "huge crush" on her which I presume is largely based in the superficial (given that, again, you don't know much about her personally). You have up to now presumed her personality type to be INFJ, which I find to be exceedingly strange of you, but okay, whatever.

Apparently you recently grabbed this person out of nowhere without her explicit consent. Without, even, much of a personal history with her at all. She reacted in an understandable manner.

Unless I'm missing something - you have formed no discernible basis by which you could ever know if you're interested in marrying this person. Have you ever had so much as a conversation with her?

Also please do not impugn other INTPs with the old "well I'm socially awkward don't mind me haha" bullshit. Yes, I am socially awkward. I was much moreso at your age. But what you're describing is just...odd. AT BEST.
 
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infinite dreams said:
Dude.

You've said in this thread that you barely know this person at all. You have a "huge crush" on her which I presume is largely based in the superficial (given that, again, you don't know much about her personally). You have up to now presumed her personality type to be INFJ, which I find to be exceedingly strange of you, but okay, whatever.

Apparently you recently grabbed this person out of nowhere without her explicit consent. Without, even, much of a personal history with her at all. She reacted in an understandable manner.

Unless I'm missing something - you have formed no discernible basis by which you could ever know if you're interested in marrying this person. Have you ever had so much as a conversation with her?

Also please do not impugn other INTPs with the old "well I'm socially awkward don't mind me haha" bullshit. Yes, I am socially awkward. I was much moreso at your age. But what you're describing is just...odd. AT BEST.
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Thank you, infinite dreams. Please don't scare him away, I'd still like to talk to him
 
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infinite dreams said:
Dude.
You've said in this thread that you barely know this person at all. You have a "huge crush" on her which I presume is largely based in the superficial (given that, again, you don't know much about her personally). You have up to now presumed her personality type to be INFJ, which I find to be exceedingly strange of you, but okay, whatever.
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I just see enough evidence showing that she is definitely INFJ.

infinite dreams said:
Unless I'm missing something - you have formed no discernible basis by which you could ever know if you're interested in marrying this person. Have you ever had so much as a conversation with her?
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I want to know her better, and than I can make decision on marrying. I like everything I see, but I have to gather evidence that I should really do it. Marriage is a goal of dating.

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Apparently you recently grabbed this person out of nowhere without her explicit consent. Without, even, much of a personal history with her at all. She reacted in an understandable manner.
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I did not "GRAB" her, it is huge exaggeration. I talked to her later. I don't know if she noticed that or she wasn't angry about it at all. She told me that finds me interesting.
 
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Believe me, we would never be a thing.

That aside, I want to help you. give me what I need to do so
 
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