there was this chick that i've been getting close to for a month now and everything was going pretty well...
she seemed to understand how my mind works and basically filled in my 'checklist' hahah
but recently i talked to her about something that was really private to me, and she didn't seem too comfortable with it..
she of course, didn't want to offend me, and agreed with what i said..
ugh, now something seems wrong and i don't know how to deal with it.
more importantly i feel extremely vulnerable and feel like i've 'tainted a friendship'...
how do i bring this up to her without being completely direct?
i notice that when i feel this way i completely want to withdraw from her and just ASK her about it// and also a weird urge to just cut all connections with her if she feels the least uncomfortable. it's not about ME though, it bothers me if PEOPLE are.
so yea, advice would be nice.. (aren't i delightfully vague?) i guess i can try to elaborate later.. or if anyone wants specifics..
or just more importantly the INFJs reaction to uncertainty and danger..
and even MORE importantly to not give into those instincts.
edit:
I was intuiting that she's an INFJ but when she took a cognitive test she supposedly got INTP..
however, she says she got a strong Ni, Fe score... which obviously doesn't make sense. i'll probably get back to this later after i clarify.
+ i gotta stop freakin' out. haha
she seemed to understand how my mind works and basically filled in my 'checklist' hahah
but recently i talked to her about something that was really private to me, and she didn't seem too comfortable with it..
she of course, didn't want to offend me, and agreed with what i said..
ugh, now something seems wrong and i don't know how to deal with it.
more importantly i feel extremely vulnerable and feel like i've 'tainted a friendship'...
how do i bring this up to her without being completely direct?
i notice that when i feel this way i completely want to withdraw from her and just ASK her about it// and also a weird urge to just cut all connections with her if she feels the least uncomfortable. it's not about ME though, it bothers me if PEOPLE are.
so yea, advice would be nice.. (aren't i delightfully vague?) i guess i can try to elaborate later.. or if anyone wants specifics..
or just more importantly the INFJs reaction to uncertainty and danger..
and even MORE importantly to not give into those instincts.
edit:
I was intuiting that she's an INFJ but when she took a cognitive test she supposedly got INTP..
however, she says she got a strong Ni, Fe score... which obviously doesn't make sense. i'll probably get back to this later after i clarify.
+ i gotta stop freakin' out. haha
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