My fiance is an ESFJ and I'm INFJ so her dominant function is Fe and my secondary function is Fe. We quite often get into this annoying loop of; "I want to do whatever you want to do..." "but I want to do whatever you want to do!" Repeat. Is this Fe at work? our needs and wants are automatically the needs and wants of those around us. We put the needs and wants of the other first so end up in a neverending loop when someone else feels the same way. Does this make sense?