I have 4 sisters and my second oldest sister has always been an odd one. I am pretty sure she is an introvert. She is 24 and went to uni to study creative writing...I think. I actually don't know! That sums up our relationship up pretty well, doesn't it?
She has always had an extremely volatile relationship with my Mum. All this time and I still have no idea why. I've never asked anyone in my family why this is- I don't want to stir any uncomfortable emotions and I have drawn my own conclusions.
Anyway, through the time I've known her she has always been on and off with me. Since I can remember, from about my early teens, she will insult me to the deepest possible degree. Then she'll be really nice again and try to hug me and other stupid stuff. Her insults would come in the form of put downs. When I open my mouth to say something she'll shoot it down and tell me how sad/pretentious/idiotic my ideas are. If I'm reading a book she'll criticise it to death with one sentence. She'll be extremely patronising.
Every time she did this I would fucking hate her! It was completely unprovoked attacks! I'd shut down and not talk to her, then repeat.
The way I coped with this, is when I was about 15, I just blocked her out emotionally. If I didn't talk to or respond to her in any way, she couldn't hurt me. Simple as that. I'm still doing this now, that's just the way it is and the way it always will be probably.
I'm not bitter or angry or looking to patch it up, I'm just interested purely from a research point of view.
I'm really curious to find out what you think? Why would she do that to me? Especially considering I was only a young kid. She still tries to do it now, but I can just laugh it off because it's just insecure rants and I'm secure and confident enough in myself to look at her behaviour and shrug.
She has always had an extremely volatile relationship with my Mum. All this time and I still have no idea why. I've never asked anyone in my family why this is- I don't want to stir any uncomfortable emotions and I have drawn my own conclusions.
Anyway, through the time I've known her she has always been on and off with me. Since I can remember, from about my early teens, she will insult me to the deepest possible degree. Then she'll be really nice again and try to hug me and other stupid stuff. Her insults would come in the form of put downs. When I open my mouth to say something she'll shoot it down and tell me how sad/pretentious/idiotic my ideas are. If I'm reading a book she'll criticise it to death with one sentence. She'll be extremely patronising.
Every time she did this I would fucking hate her! It was completely unprovoked attacks! I'd shut down and not talk to her, then repeat.
The way I coped with this, is when I was about 15, I just blocked her out emotionally. If I didn't talk to or respond to her in any way, she couldn't hurt me. Simple as that. I'm still doing this now, that's just the way it is and the way it always will be probably.
I'm not bitter or angry or looking to patch it up, I'm just interested purely from a research point of view.
I'm really curious to find out what you think? Why would she do that to me? Especially considering I was only a young kid. She still tries to do it now, but I can just laugh it off because it's just insecure rants and I'm secure and confident enough in myself to look at her behaviour and shrug.