I have an Infj friend, we’re actually workmates. We’ve known each other for more than a year now and I can say that I pretty much know him well. When we met, there was this unique closeness I had with him. We went for an out-of-town group trip last year, but he was courting someone during that period. I decided to keep myself distant, as I wouldn’t want to get him into trouble or something. So during their short relationship, I was dating someone else. Then they broke up last year, and we’re back in being close again. My feelings started to developed as he was really really nice. I remember I told him I wanted to buy a dog, but the seller’s location was very far. He immediately offered to accompany me to get the dog I wanted. Unfortunately, I had a party to go to that day so our trip didn’t pushed through. Then he told me that he knows someone selling a dog that I might like. He said he will deliver it to our home personally. He lives a bit far from my house, so I really appreciated his effort to drive all the way to my place. He even helped me with some things on my shop that night. We spent time together, but there were awkward moments. Like he was too silent? After that, he scheduled a training and asked me to join (although I wasn’t part of his team). We went to see a movie after, just the two of us. Then, I had a trip to another country, for pleasure, with my bestfriend. It was almost a week off from work. We kept our communication and during the time I was away, he said he got sick and wasn’t able to report for work as well. During my trip, I met someone who has a vape shop (Fyi, me and my infj friend are vapers). So I posted this video of the guy (vape shop owner) wherein we were joking around while he tests the vape juice that I had. I posted it in facebook. Then my infj friend told me that my laugh was kinda flirty. After that, he suddenly became sad or seemed disappointed and kept on pinning on himself. He said he was in a wedding and this guy suddenly asked him why he was still single. He was like self-pitying about the whole conversation he had with that person. I used this moment to tell him how I feel, well to make him feel good. I told him, i like him. Then he said, he was caught off guard. But he appreciates the friendship though. I took this as a sign that he didn’t like me and we’re better off as friends. So a few days gone by and it was a little awkward when we see each other in the office. He looks kinda scared of me or something. But it faded, and we went back to our usual closeness. After that, I was afraid to bring up the topic again. Then just this month, we went for an out-of-town trip, just the two of us. There were moments like I feel we’re getting/almost there. We had that moments where we actually leaned on the each other unconsciously while sleeping in the van/plane. He took a lot of pictures of us, some where unsolicited actually. He posted it on facebook. So some of our officemates were suprised that we went there together. He posted pictures of him, with me on the background. Some of those I’m aware, some not. I’m actually puzzled on the way he acts around me. I don’t know. Does he like me? I mean, would you go for an out-of-town trip with a girl “friend” you know likes you? Will you make an effort to spend time with me, if he just wanted me as a friend? He opens up to me a lot of times, telling me secrets, saying I’m the only one who knew about it. But, I’m now afraid to confess, yet again, because I might scare him off. By the way, I’m a widow with kids. I don’t know if it has an impact or something on his indecisiveness.
