It seems like more of a personlity trait to me. You could develop it over time but I think most compassionate people have always been so.
When you have experienced the pain of putting your hand on the fire, you shall understand the pain of others who will do the same at some point.
Understanding someone's pain is not always sufficient motivation to do anything to relieve it.
I don't think compassion involves relieving others from suffering, I think it only acknowledges and understands the pain of others.
The Oxford Dictionary supports your meaning.
Personally, I interpret your definition as empathy or even sympathy. If there is no desire to relieve suffering then as far as I'm concerned it is not compassion. It is not necessary to actually relieve pain. I acknowledge my previous sentence was deficient in not distinguishing. No two words in English supposedly are exactly synonymous. Therefore, empathy < sympathy < compassion. However, this is a personal interpretation.
This is mercy or possibly even forgiveness. I suppose the distinction is made based on whether you grant the second chance from a position of "power over" or "personal power"."I'm not so sure I want to be understanding or giving but for some reason, I'd like to give you a chance or a second chance"
This is generosity."I think you should have this or need this more than I do so you should have it."
Not interfering can sometimes be the greatest act of compassion one can show to others.
In other words, it's not always based entirely in an unselfish, perfectly humble feeling. Sometimes, it's spontaneous.
You mean when you see a kid about to get hit by a car, and you push the kid to the side and you end up the one getting hit?
If so, I agree.
What do you agree with here? Is it that the scenario is not unselfish? I would think it is unselfish, at least on the surface. Or is it that the choice was spontaneous?
However, if there is no room to think and the action is simply reflexive than how can the act be compassionate? There must be room for reflection, it seems to me.
Go spend a week homeless on the street, then move to a third world country and stay there for a month or more. Then come back to the U.S. and realize how great your life is.
Unfortunately realizing how great your life is will not change the life of those living in third world countries or those who are homeless. The real compassionate would live in those places permanently and do all they can to mitigate their suffering.
Wasn't that what Jesus did? He could've stayed in heaven, but he chose to come to this shit hole and do something about it. At least that's how the bible portrays him as.