Ok I have to explain the title before people start flipping out… I was reading this psychology magazine yesterday and inside of it was a rather interesting article on confidence and how useful it actually is. The claims and statements in the article where backed up by a couple of recent studies that found some interesting results in reviewing confidence. I am not here to argue the validity of the data provided or the article itself, I just thought the general argument was interesting even though I originally disagreed with it. The more I read though, the more I realized that some rather valid arguments were made.
In the beginning I have to point out the issue with any type of study like this, even if it is carried out in the most perfect circumstances because they have some inherent risks. These are because studies done about asking someone about their own self image and confidence level are generally flawed. People lie, simple matter of fact truth, even in blind studies. Of course you can get averages and have a general idea but still it will harm the validity of the data set and data sets can be construed in any number of ways to match an argument. I am mentioning this because I love to play devil’s advocate and get people to look at all sides of an argument from an unbiased position. Everybody will have their opinion and I really don’t care to dissuade you, I just thought it was interesting so I thought I would share.
So the basic argument of the article is that confidence really has no impact upon success and achievement in life, in fact it can have the opposite effect. The article cited multiple times a researcher who has studied confidence extensively since the late 60’s. When he started researching confidence he believed it a cure all for everything and by building confidence, the world would become a better place. He thought the best way to raise future generations would be to build their confidence and help them achieve high levels of self admiration or self esteem. This was the beginning of the “me generation” and as we have witnessed, it hasn’t really turned out how they expected.
In fact, from his studies he found that people with low self esteem and low confidence might actually achieve more because of their desire to compensate for that lack of self worth. He also found that all these self help guides and programs designed to build confidence are essentially useless. Force feeding someone confidence can actually have the opposite effect of building confidence. Making people make lists of why they are great and making them force that energy inwards to measure their worth actually makes them further despise themselves. The article stated that a majority of people suffering from low self esteem and low self confidence reported having even lower levels after doing such tasks as writing things about themselves that they love.
They also could not find any correlation between successes in all facets of life, especially the career field. The reason is, as demonstrated by the “me generation”, an abundance of self confidence and self worth can cause extreme narcissism and entitlement. This entitlement based mind set results in individuals less willing to work for anything besides themselves and only to a point that they believe is fair. This is not a great combination for finding success. They also tend to believe that work places should just be happy that they even show up, yet alone on time.
The studies they mentioned showed that the greatest impact upon success is actually self control. The ability to control ones impulses and remain focused, determined. It does not require extreme amounts of confidence to have great self control. Confident people and unconfident people alike can have great self control.
Now I could go on and on about the strengths and weakness about this argument but I will let someone else do that. I will state here though that success is a rather broad term and in certain career fields I would argue that confidence is very key but not true confidence. Fake confidence will work. Like I work in sales and I am pretty decent at it. Sometimes I have to fake confidence in a service that I really don’t know much about and I am pretty good at it. If I went to a client and had no confidence in my abilities and knowledge, I would never make a sell. The truth is though, some of the people I work with have the lowest self esteem in the world but they make a lot of money. They are beautiful, good looking, well mannered, arrogant, self centered, individuals who thrive in the industry despite the lack of self worth. The guy I know who has the most confidence and highest self worth is the part time cleaner. Funny guy.
There is such a thing as too much confidence, too much of an inflated ego, too much believe in ones own ability. There is a point that it just becomes irrational, illogical and as detrimental as the person with low self esteem and confidence.
In the beginning I have to point out the issue with any type of study like this, even if it is carried out in the most perfect circumstances because they have some inherent risks. These are because studies done about asking someone about their own self image and confidence level are generally flawed. People lie, simple matter of fact truth, even in blind studies. Of course you can get averages and have a general idea but still it will harm the validity of the data set and data sets can be construed in any number of ways to match an argument. I am mentioning this because I love to play devil’s advocate and get people to look at all sides of an argument from an unbiased position. Everybody will have their opinion and I really don’t care to dissuade you, I just thought it was interesting so I thought I would share.
So the basic argument of the article is that confidence really has no impact upon success and achievement in life, in fact it can have the opposite effect. The article cited multiple times a researcher who has studied confidence extensively since the late 60’s. When he started researching confidence he believed it a cure all for everything and by building confidence, the world would become a better place. He thought the best way to raise future generations would be to build their confidence and help them achieve high levels of self admiration or self esteem. This was the beginning of the “me generation” and as we have witnessed, it hasn’t really turned out how they expected.
In fact, from his studies he found that people with low self esteem and low confidence might actually achieve more because of their desire to compensate for that lack of self worth. He also found that all these self help guides and programs designed to build confidence are essentially useless. Force feeding someone confidence can actually have the opposite effect of building confidence. Making people make lists of why they are great and making them force that energy inwards to measure their worth actually makes them further despise themselves. The article stated that a majority of people suffering from low self esteem and low self confidence reported having even lower levels after doing such tasks as writing things about themselves that they love.
They also could not find any correlation between successes in all facets of life, especially the career field. The reason is, as demonstrated by the “me generation”, an abundance of self confidence and self worth can cause extreme narcissism and entitlement. This entitlement based mind set results in individuals less willing to work for anything besides themselves and only to a point that they believe is fair. This is not a great combination for finding success. They also tend to believe that work places should just be happy that they even show up, yet alone on time.
The studies they mentioned showed that the greatest impact upon success is actually self control. The ability to control ones impulses and remain focused, determined. It does not require extreme amounts of confidence to have great self control. Confident people and unconfident people alike can have great self control.
Now I could go on and on about the strengths and weakness about this argument but I will let someone else do that. I will state here though that success is a rather broad term and in certain career fields I would argue that confidence is very key but not true confidence. Fake confidence will work. Like I work in sales and I am pretty decent at it. Sometimes I have to fake confidence in a service that I really don’t know much about and I am pretty good at it. If I went to a client and had no confidence in my abilities and knowledge, I would never make a sell. The truth is though, some of the people I work with have the lowest self esteem in the world but they make a lot of money. They are beautiful, good looking, well mannered, arrogant, self centered, individuals who thrive in the industry despite the lack of self worth. The guy I know who has the most confidence and highest self worth is the part time cleaner. Funny guy.
There is such a thing as too much confidence, too much of an inflated ego, too much believe in ones own ability. There is a point that it just becomes irrational, illogical and as detrimental as the person with low self esteem and confidence.