Choosing a therapist

I always tell people that my (favorite and best) therapist is very neutral. Apparently that's what I value most in him. He's not judgmental and he laughs with me about my shortcomings (my perception) and my foibles (his perceptions) Hah!
I say you need to interview your therapist to be. Throw out some hints of your deepest fears and see their reactions.
Sounds like you had some dissatisfaction with previous ones. Make a mental list of what those are and see if they show up in the ones you're interviewing.
Don't be afraid to shop around for one. Some therapists stick with a few theories and those may not fit with your situation at the moment. Others try to integrate many theories and may be more appropriate for you.
Good luck. I admire anyone willing to seek assistance for their mental health. To me - it's just like going to the auto shop for preventive maintenance or to fix something.

 

Good luck! Take your time. Remember - they work for you.

 

Someone who listens, understands and is neutral.

Fortunately I found one on the first session I had. My therapist was the one who introduced me to MBTI, her being an INFJ.