Absolutely.
I mean, I can say that now. There was a time when I wasn't sure and maybe even thought 'No'...because I struggled to get past it.
There's a good chance saying it out loud cost me a potential relationship and, well, we weren't really good friends anyway but I think she was definitely worth getting to know better but now we don't really speak. She's still around and we're not on bad terms but we're definitely estranged.
I sort of break my own life up into the basic triumvirate of body, mind and soul.
If I do that for women as well then there are a lot who I find attractive based on their body alone. This is, honestly, the first thing I notice and it is important...to a degree. This is just based on physical features and looks and body type etc. Everyone has their preferences there, each to their own as well, I say.
The mind is, to me, if she has a clue. It doesn't mean she has to have a formal education or a career plan but she should really have something going on. I should be able to hold a conversation with her and it not be strained. I've met a few people like this so I know it is possible to just click with people on that level. How they think and talk and what sort of things spark their interest come under this kind of 'mind' aspect.
The soul is what makes them, them. It isn't about religion but it could be to do with spirituality. It also is them behind all the masks and games people play and I am no less guilty of playing even when I hated doing it.
Now, I can be friends with anyone that I get on with on the mind/soul levels. It works, we click, and usually have a good time. This can be either gender because I don't really care what my guy friends' bodies are like...none of my business :lol:. Same goes for women that I am not physically attracted to - easily, I can be friends with them.
I can't really be friends with a woman I just find physically attractive but lacks much compatibility in the mind/soul area. I guess if I was more into that, these would be the women who I might have just physical relations with but...I ain't mad on one night stands etc + lol
Essentially though, there are a lot of 'attractive' women around. I can't give every one of them a second thought. It's only a third of the pie.
If she has all three, I want her to be mine. I'm going to try my best to get her to be.
If I am not right for her, that sucks, but I haven't come across anyone like that yet. At least not since I've really thought about it that way. I did just get distracted by the body before and think that I couldn't just be friends but also undervalued other aspects of their person which sounds bad but...yeah.
