Pristinegirl
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- MBTI
- ANFP
Child neglection
This happens to me too only when I fight with my mom, I EXPLODE in rage, and spit out hurtful words but this is only happens when she triggers me, by ignoring me and doesn't engage in relevant stimulating conversation with me as I have something significant to talk about, essential to my future. And believe me I know it's wrong of me to explode in bouts of anger, but when at the moment, I have nowhere else to adress my melodramatic feelings. I feel remorse for doing it because I love her but then sad also because she doesn't love me the way a nurturing mother should nor represent an ideal mother. I usually hold on to things like these for a longer time whereas she forgets them as soon as they are over. Therefore if she asks if I want to have a cup of tea the next day like NOTHING has happened - I will by reflex snap her off because I am still hurt as she is IGNORING the past event.
I simply can't stand being ignored.
On the other hand when it comes to friends, I am very specific when arguing with my friends, no mean words, no harm are mentioned. However I say them in my mind instead
Exploding!
My tatic of anger usually deals with analysis of other people [ which are usually quite accurate, if not exagerrated a bit] where I tell them their flaws in a rather rude and blunt way, intended to hurt the other person and make them feel pain. Later, much, much later, I will feel remorse for my actions.
This happens to me too only when I fight with my mom, I EXPLODE in rage, and spit out hurtful words but this is only happens when she triggers me, by ignoring me and doesn't engage in relevant stimulating conversation with me as I have something significant to talk about, essential to my future. And believe me I know it's wrong of me to explode in bouts of anger, but when at the moment, I have nowhere else to adress my melodramatic feelings. I feel remorse for doing it because I love her but then sad also because she doesn't love me the way a nurturing mother should nor represent an ideal mother. I usually hold on to things like these for a longer time whereas she forgets them as soon as they are over. Therefore if she asks if I want to have a cup of tea the next day like NOTHING has happened - I will by reflex snap her off because I am still hurt as she is IGNORING the past event.
I simply can't stand being ignored.
On the other hand when it comes to friends, I am very specific when arguing with my friends, no mean words, no harm are mentioned. However I say them in my mind instead

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