Interesting point of view. I strongly suspect some part of it happens to me too, especially the bolded part.
Did you feel alright with that behavior?
Did you learn to cope / manage / balance your behavior?
Yeah, as children me and my siblings would be critical of my ISFJ moms cooking. Just general child whining. But as I got older I kept doing it sometimes. And whenever my mom expressed her displeasure I defended my actions that I wanted to help her improve her cooking. She replied that it's not nice to hear only the critical stuff, after all the amount of work and effort she puts into it. I agreed and also randomly give compliments and always add positive stuff in addition to critique. This was not one conversation, but rather a process that probably lasted a few years and didn't only deal with my mom. I also learned a large part in my first year of university where I got a lot of (mandatory) "Social and Professional Skills Training". So far (3 years in) I've had classes on teamwork, presentations, debating, giving feedback, interviews, mediation and your own weaknesses. Giving feedback was in the first year and gave a theoretical framework for what I had learned from my mom earlier. At that point I was consciously aware of whenever I gave feedback and how to do it.
I feel incredibly grateful for (learning) this behaviour, because I know how to give proper feedback. I know that insecure people probably can't use any critique at that point and thus I won't give them any. Some people can handle (and sometimes even need) a full-out frontal attack of critique. Others are in the middle and need some sugarcoating with the advice. Sugarcoating sounds like it is fake, but it really isn't. I genuinly appreciate what I compliment them on. It's just that I have to remember to actually say it, because there's always something positive going on that most people take for granted.
For example:
I think you show a few clear signs of intelligence or common sense.
You want to learn more about yourself. That's an incredibly good characteristic. I always encourage people to do so.
You (dare to) use this forum to ask random strangers about yourself. I think that's a sign that you're not afraid of who you are and just genuinly want to learn about yourself.
Simply talking to others about yourself is also the best. Others have different perspectives. It's always important to use those perspectives. Don't limit yourself to only your own perspective. There's so much more points of view that can learn you immense amounts. Close-minded people often stick to their own perspective and miss a lot of the world.
And the good thing is, you are already doing all of this the right way! I like you.
Asking me about my experiences is pretty much the perfect question. First I like to talk about myself (who doesn't?) and second it might give you useful insights about yourself.
And thanks for the thumbs up ^^
I did this as example. Not because I felt that you needed it. I could've used to lift your mood or to balance critique. (I have none currently)
But despite all of that, every bit of it is genuine. It's true. Those things are awesome. Some of it might be seen as normal, like giving the thumbs up. But I still appreciate it. One might also say that the common sense stuff I mentioned is pretty common. Maybe it is, but I doubt it. And even if it is common, it's still praiseworthy.