If someone is flirting with you, it is pretty clear to see what they want. They want you.I can see flirting being very fun to do, but the....uncertainty and the "what the hell is he thinking and what does he want and am I being played or what" drives me nuts.
My own flaw, yes, but spare me the pain. Be direct. Please.
I can see flirting being very fun to do, but the....uncertainty and the "what the hell is he thinking and what does he want and am I being played or what" drives me nuts.
My own flaw, yes, but spare me the pain. Be direct. Please.
If someone is flirting with you, it is pretty clear to see what they want. They want you.
what else would they want? To me, your response tells me that when you flirt you are trying to get something else out of the person - some sort of ulterior motive.
no, sometimes they want to see the target's reaction and/or they want to establish closeness to the target (but not necessarily wanting the target / reaching THAT POINT)If someone is flirting with you, it is pretty clear to see what they want. They want you.
what else would they want? To me, your response tells me that when you flirt you are trying to get something else out of the person - some sort of ulterior motive.
Same here. When someone does too much flirting, it makes me question whether they are interested or just having fun for the sake of flirting. Flirting can be nice but when it goes on for a while and never goes anywhere, then personally, it's annoying and misleading. Too often people use it to lead someone on and then pretend it wasn't meant to go anywhere. After a while, it feels ridiculous. At that point, I hope the person stops or moves on to someone else.
But of course, if there's a mutual interest and both of us know there's something more, then flirting can be fun because then it's meaningful.
Which seems to work for you the most? Which approach do you prefer?