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- INTP
I thought dating was complicated enough, and now I am interested in going on a date with a coworker, to make things more interesting...
Basically, she's in the same department as me, but so are about a hundred other people. I had seen her in the hallway a few times, and I was blown away by how beautiful she was. I was in a training class at work with her and didn't have a chance to interact with her (also didn't help that I'm very shy), but her interest and motivation in what she did for a living was definitely a turn-on for me... plus the fact that she seems incredibly easy-going.
I then had this crazy idea to get an excuse to talk to her... I'm doing a presentation on a certain topic at work, and I realized that she had some research on a subset of this topic. I decided that if she was open to it, I would mention her work in my presentation.
I went over to her desk and talked to her about it. She was very shy (not looking directly at me); it was incredibly cute. I think a third-party would have realized it was obvious I liked her, because I was laughing after I pretty much said anything. Eventually our eyes met and I didn't break my gaze; she smiled at this point, and continued to smile and laugh as our conversation continued. Seemed like a good sign.
I sent her a message at work thanking her for the help, and we ended up launching into a conversation (over IM) about various things and our work backgrounds. She seemed to send a lot of "hahaha" messages and smiley emoticons, but I'm not really sure how much of this was just her being friendly. I don't really know how much you can construe accurately from digital mediums like this.
So I want to get to know her better at this point, but I don't have a lot to talk to her about besides work, and I would like to increase my chances of success because if my attempt seems desperate or definitely focused on anything romantic, it could make for some awkward work interactions and potentially get people around the office talking. She is also from China and I believe has only been in the states for 4 or 5 years, so I'm not sure how much her cultural background will influence her willingness to date (I've been to China so I've learned a little bit about what dating is like there, but I don't know how much that changes when someone moves to the U.S.).
My current plan is to find another excuse to talk to her about something work-related, and then maybe try to ask her if her team does any travel for work... I absolute love traveling, on and top of that, I traveled to China for work and I really really want to learn Mandarin. Part of me thinks that may come off as shallow and potentially racist (though I do happen to be of Asian descent as well), but I genuinely love the culture, and at this point, it may be one of the few things we have in common (until I find out more by hanging out with her!).
So if this plan works and the conversation goes well, I was thinking about asking her if she'd like to go on a friendly work lunch, and then learn more about her from that, and then if we like each other, we could become friends (if I do think she potentially liked me more than a friend, I would still probably try to delay any initial romantic actions on my end for awhile because of the whole work-connection and the fact that I'm not really "ready" for anything serious at the moment).
Anyway, any advice? Noise is CRUSHING, and he hasn't really done much dating for years...
Basically, she's in the same department as me, but so are about a hundred other people. I had seen her in the hallway a few times, and I was blown away by how beautiful she was. I was in a training class at work with her and didn't have a chance to interact with her (also didn't help that I'm very shy), but her interest and motivation in what she did for a living was definitely a turn-on for me... plus the fact that she seems incredibly easy-going.
I then had this crazy idea to get an excuse to talk to her... I'm doing a presentation on a certain topic at work, and I realized that she had some research on a subset of this topic. I decided that if she was open to it, I would mention her work in my presentation.
I went over to her desk and talked to her about it. She was very shy (not looking directly at me); it was incredibly cute. I think a third-party would have realized it was obvious I liked her, because I was laughing after I pretty much said anything. Eventually our eyes met and I didn't break my gaze; she smiled at this point, and continued to smile and laugh as our conversation continued. Seemed like a good sign.
I sent her a message at work thanking her for the help, and we ended up launching into a conversation (over IM) about various things and our work backgrounds. She seemed to send a lot of "hahaha" messages and smiley emoticons, but I'm not really sure how much of this was just her being friendly. I don't really know how much you can construe accurately from digital mediums like this.
So I want to get to know her better at this point, but I don't have a lot to talk to her about besides work, and I would like to increase my chances of success because if my attempt seems desperate or definitely focused on anything romantic, it could make for some awkward work interactions and potentially get people around the office talking. She is also from China and I believe has only been in the states for 4 or 5 years, so I'm not sure how much her cultural background will influence her willingness to date (I've been to China so I've learned a little bit about what dating is like there, but I don't know how much that changes when someone moves to the U.S.).
My current plan is to find another excuse to talk to her about something work-related, and then maybe try to ask her if her team does any travel for work... I absolute love traveling, on and top of that, I traveled to China for work and I really really want to learn Mandarin. Part of me thinks that may come off as shallow and potentially racist (though I do happen to be of Asian descent as well), but I genuinely love the culture, and at this point, it may be one of the few things we have in common (until I find out more by hanging out with her!).
So if this plan works and the conversation goes well, I was thinking about asking her if she'd like to go on a friendly work lunch, and then learn more about her from that, and then if we like each other, we could become friends (if I do think she potentially liked me more than a friend, I would still probably try to delay any initial romantic actions on my end for awhile because of the whole work-connection and the fact that I'm not really "ready" for anything serious at the moment).
Anyway, any advice? Noise is CRUSHING, and he hasn't really done much dating for years...
