First of all, great thread.
I am single and consider it my default status. I've tried for relationships but have been unsuccesful in the past. Conversely, I have been really lucky and had a woman fall for me at three pivotal moments in my life: in college, after graduating, and right now. I have trouble deeply trusting, so eventually, I abandon the idea that I will ever be happy with a girlfriend. The older I get, however, the harder it is for me to callously walk away from them. It's kind of endearing, really. At this rate, I may find someone that will be impossible to leave. But for now, I believe I'll be alone forever (and I'm okay with that). There's only been one girl in my life where I had the same clarity of thought when speaking that I do when writing an e-mail. Plus there was electricity between me and her that I so desperately crave.
I don't date much because I'm not very good at it. I don't have much patience and typically want to immediately spend a lot of time with a new girl. With social norms, this doesn't leave me coming off as "cool" as I don't give the girl enough time alone to doubt whether I might like her.
Sometimes I get approached, but when it happens I feel blindsided and unprepared. I usually fuck up at that point. That's probably why I almost always approach. It's hard for me to not approach as I usually get drawn in by people who interest me. I can easily start a conversation based on esoteric things I intuitively pick up on. I have been told I come off as flirtatious and extraverted (as told to me by other introverts, especially).
A book store has historically been one of my proving grounds to get girls' numbers. When I don't second-guess myself, I can approach and get a number there and almost anywhere. I just have difficulty with the follow up.
I am single and consider it my default status. I've tried for relationships but have been unsuccesful in the past. Conversely, I have been really lucky and had a woman fall for me at three pivotal moments in my life: in college, after graduating, and right now. I have trouble deeply trusting, so eventually, I abandon the idea that I will ever be happy with a girlfriend. The older I get, however, the harder it is for me to callously walk away from them. It's kind of endearing, really. At this rate, I may find someone that will be impossible to leave. But for now, I believe I'll be alone forever (and I'm okay with that). There's only been one girl in my life where I had the same clarity of thought when speaking that I do when writing an e-mail. Plus there was electricity between me and her that I so desperately crave.
I don't date much because I'm not very good at it. I don't have much patience and typically want to immediately spend a lot of time with a new girl. With social norms, this doesn't leave me coming off as "cool" as I don't give the girl enough time alone to doubt whether I might like her.
Sometimes I get approached, but when it happens I feel blindsided and unprepared. I usually fuck up at that point. That's probably why I almost always approach. It's hard for me to not approach as I usually get drawn in by people who interest me. I can easily start a conversation based on esoteric things I intuitively pick up on. I have been told I come off as flirtatious and extraverted (as told to me by other introverts, especially).
A book store has historically been one of my proving grounds to get girls' numbers. When I don't second-guess myself, I can approach and get a number there and almost anywhere. I just have difficulty with the follow up.
I'm a fat socially awkward fuck with no job. A MAN with no job. That's super bad for male attractiveness. And I am not easygoing. And I don't get along well. Half the forum thinks I'm a shitface, and the other half doesn't know me.
