@PintoBean "disappearing their shit" I love it! Haha it's so funny bc his mom told me she has done that to him before, when she'd asked him several times to clean and he didn't, she threw it away! Haha
@Ginny The grossness is definitely a turnoff, but it's not like he is walking around with snot and dirt cakes to his physical body lol. I am just a sexual person, and I have the ability to push all that aside in order to get what I want. It is no longer intimate on my part. I don't let him kiss me anymore. But when I want it, I want it. When he wants it, which isnt like every night, I give it because it benefits me as well. Great stress reliever, for me anyway. It could be said that I'm using him for that in a way. I dont feel like I am but sometimes he does. LOL. Good.
He has been trouble since his teens but not as bad as your dad is. He encourages me to have friends and see my family, is isnt possesive or jealous but if I started talking to another guy hed definitely freak out, understably. I have even considered doing just that, online only. But I didn't.
Hes been through a lot, and it shows. Since finding out he is ISTP and finding a way to make him healthier we have done better. We just have to stay on top of him, and I don't mind that part as much. If there was no good in him I would just cut my losses and find a place to go. As I said earlier though, I know it's coming to a head and things are going to change with or without him. I just know it
Edited to add.... Another great thing I dont wanna let go of is... He is very faithful! Doesnt care whatsoever about other women. And after being abused in that way by my ex (continuously talking to and dating others online and phone) that is a tremendous thing to me.
@Ginny I forgot to address the vulnerable vs protective wall thing. I think that now, I do have that protective wall with everyone else, after going through a major betrayal by my own mother who took me to court over my son. My bf and his family witnessed all this and were there through it all, and I think I don't have the wall with them because I lived with them while going through this, so couldn't quite shut them out entirely. But I am more skeptical and leery of everything and everyone else now, and it would take a LOT to be able to really trust someone enough to truly think they were my real friend. Make sense?
PS. My mother and stepfather won in court but not because the father and I were unfit, but because they had offered to help through our split, taking care of our son and providing money, and taking him to dr visits bc we worked, etc... All they had to do was prove they had been taking care of him for 6 months and it was considered that they were indeed the "de facto custodians". They saved receipts and planned everything behind my back bc they knew I trusted my mother. Well. Never again. Not gonna ever assume that anyone would never hurt me.
@James does your “like” mean you're available to organizing and clean my house? If so what is your hourly rate?
Are these floor socks and boxers clean, dirty or a mixture of both? Also why wait so long to tidy up? Is it because you’re too lazy to care?I can only get so messy before I have to clean. There's a limit.
I can have my socks and boxers on the floor for 30 minutes before I remove them but nothing else, everything else goes in its correct place.
Dirty, they often fall to the ground from my bed during sleep or other habits.Are these floor socks and boxers clean, dirty or a mixture of both?
I have a one-track mind and prefer to focus by order of importance.Also why wait so long to tidy up?
You're too lazy to care.Is it because you’re too lazy to care?