I am expressive but I've also learned how to keep it under wraps. I do have a little poker face sometimes but it's not intentional. However, I was pretty much the person who'd wear their heart on their sleeves. Now, I'm a little more guarded so I'm more careful how expressive I am. I usually keep my feelings under wraps unless I know someone well or feel comfortable with the person.
I'm probably moderately expressive. Unless I'm just in a crabby mood I like to be light hearted and pleasant toward people in general and I think that tends to show through my face with attentive eyes, a slight smile lingering on the lips, and with raised eyebrows. I have wrinkles already on my forehead from all the abusive years of eyebrow raising, lol. My smiles can be seen in my eyes. I talk with my hands a lot. I've struggled with my extroverted feeling for years, fearing criticism from other males and females alike. I like to smile and make eye contact with people, even strangers, but I cannot tell you enough how many people mistake that for flirtation. I can tell nearly right away if someone is unresponsive to it, or if I'm making them uncomfortable. It saddens me because I'm just being friendly.
This is very much like me! I would say that I wear my positive emotions like nothing else- you can always tell when I'm happy and excited. However, I tend to try and hide my negative emotions...which may or may not work.
lolOh man! The eye brow raising!! I can raise the one, and then both, uh I give myself a headache sometimes, lol... And yeah, I can't make eye contact unless I'm purposely flirting. My friends will call me on it. It's still uncomfortable for me.
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Also about eye contact, I never used to be able to do it. It took me years to look people in the eyes, as I was very shy and unconfident, but I knew I always wanted to and built up to it gradually. Now I'm comfortable doing it, and prefer it, unless I'm nervous around the person, like those who have that cold, hard look. You should give it a try, well you don't have to, but it builds an understanding between people.
Really I just don't keep eye contact with my friends lol as weird as that may sound. They look at me endearingly and my sexuality is pretty prominent and I'll go about misconstruing the meaning and as I feel a need to respect and love who they are I can't let myself think of them that way.
Besides that if I look at people when I'm rambling their face distracts me from my point so I'll look away at anything and everything else, glancing at them when I make a certain point and it's usually an intense facial expression lol that I get called on a lot.
So I do make eye contact and come off very confident, as I am *shrugs* but I cannot make eye contact with certain people in my life as it is too sexual for me in my own little world.
I do have to admit, eye contact can easily become sexual for me as well, especially if the female responds very warmly or looks intensely into my eyes, or I found her suddenly attractive. I can feel if there is a mutual attraction. There is a fine line for sure and I'm careful not to cross it. If I feel the eye contact is becoming sexual then I tend to look away because being married I'm not looking for another relationship.
Usually, INFJs and INFPs, ENFJs and ENFPs have the richest range of emotions. I can speak about how I see emotions in the INFJs field, and of course, as my personal view.I hide my emotions from everyone, parents included. Every relationship I've had I was accused of being cold/distant/withholding/non-affectionate. Like someone else said - they learned to be this way and the same with me, I was told at an early age that I was too sensitive and to toughen up and so in the back of my mind showing feelings = I'm a sissy, there's something wrong with me. I imagine boys hear the same sort of thing when they're young so they will grow up to be "men" but anyway, I wonder if naturally INFJ's are inclined to be expressive with emotions? If they are not taught to be otherwise? I've heard people before say INFJ's should be because they have Fe, but I believe Fe is picking up on the feelings of others, not expression of your own, but I may be wrong on that.
I hide my emotions from everyone, parents included. Every relationship I've had I was accused of being cold/distant/withholding/non-affectionate. Like someone else said - they learned to be this way and the same with me, I was told at an early age that I was too sensitive and to toughen up and so in the back of my mind showing feelings = I'm a sissy, there's something wrong with me. I imagine boys hear the same sort of thing when they're young so they will grow up to be "men" but anyway, I wonder if naturally INFJ's are inclined to be expressive with emotions? If they are not taught to be otherwise? I've heard people before say INFJ's should be because they have Fe, but I believe Fe is picking up on the feelings of others, not expression of your own, but I may be wrong on that.