1. I actually enjoy paying for dates so...sure. My mind may change on that one though, I don't like feeling like "I" am not valuable on my own and need to supplement that with money to keep someone interested. I guess on some level it's not different from makeup, hah. But I wouldn't necessarily mind wearing that if I wasn't worried about it ruining my non-made up face.
2. Honesty is key here. If you don't want commitment, say that up front so she can leave if she does. If you "maybe" want commitment and she really does, at a certain point she should leave. That said, I think that people are pressured to commit by people and by society in general way more than this suggests--it's harder to deal with because it's less on an individual level than it is a societal one, but the pressure exists.
3. I was struggling with this because I generally believe in giving people chances (not for some things) and would want to receive chances myself, but I've absolutely stopped trying to contact people after getting no response. I think the key is that if that person that stopped contacting me for a long time took the time to reach out to me I would at least respond and give them the opportunity to try to reconnect (provided I wasn't also busy and we had something to talk about). Also if I were actually dating a person who did that I would be significantly more patient than I would be if we were friends.
Also, two strikes you're out is a little high of a bar I feel. Maybe I'm taking it too literally.
4. Generally fair with the caveat: If they're willing to learn about your interests to get closer to you, they should be able to slide in.
5. I don't know what all the standards are here but holding doors for a woman is fun for me. Don't know if that ought to be a dealbreaker though--maybe "does the occasional thing just to be nice to you + good sex". Feels a little transactional but I guess some of that is unavoidable.
6. Mixed feelings. Boundaries are fine and while I don't think that there's anything inherently wrong with trying to convince someone to lower boundaries, I understand there's a degree of threat here beyond the act itself so I'll tentatively allow for that. I'll have to rewatch the video to check what this means but when she says "resistant to change", does that mean when she puts up new boundaries or when she tries to get more commitments from him? If the first, if he finds boundaries unacceptable he should break up with her immediately, provided they're permanent and there's not a tragedy associated with them. If the second, he has a right to boundaries himself, but she should break up with him if she doesn't like them.
7. Not sure what I think about this. Probably depends on context.
2. Honesty is key here. If you don't want commitment, say that up front so she can leave if she does. If you "maybe" want commitment and she really does, at a certain point she should leave. That said, I think that people are pressured to commit by people and by society in general way more than this suggests--it's harder to deal with because it's less on an individual level than it is a societal one, but the pressure exists.
3. I was struggling with this because I generally believe in giving people chances (not for some things) and would want to receive chances myself, but I've absolutely stopped trying to contact people after getting no response. I think the key is that if that person that stopped contacting me for a long time took the time to reach out to me I would at least respond and give them the opportunity to try to reconnect (provided I wasn't also busy and we had something to talk about). Also if I were actually dating a person who did that I would be significantly more patient than I would be if we were friends.
Also, two strikes you're out is a little high of a bar I feel. Maybe I'm taking it too literally.
4. Generally fair with the caveat: If they're willing to learn about your interests to get closer to you, they should be able to slide in.
5. I don't know what all the standards are here but holding doors for a woman is fun for me. Don't know if that ought to be a dealbreaker though--maybe "does the occasional thing just to be nice to you + good sex". Feels a little transactional but I guess some of that is unavoidable.
6. Mixed feelings. Boundaries are fine and while I don't think that there's anything inherently wrong with trying to convince someone to lower boundaries, I understand there's a degree of threat here beyond the act itself so I'll tentatively allow for that. I'll have to rewatch the video to check what this means but when she says "resistant to change", does that mean when she puts up new boundaries or when she tries to get more commitments from him? If the first, if he finds boundaries unacceptable he should break up with her immediately, provided they're permanent and there's not a tragedy associated with them. If the second, he has a right to boundaries himself, but she should break up with him if she doesn't like them.
7. Not sure what I think about this. Probably depends on context.
