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[ENTJ] 7 Signs You're Dating a LOSER!

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  1. Yes, I'm dating a L-L-LOOOSER.

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  1. Pin

    Pin "Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart

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    LOSER. LOSER. LOSER.

    Ladies, based on the content in this video are you dating a LOSER? Gentlemen, have you ever dated a loser? Maybe you are a loser! If you are, cut it out!

    How considerate are you of others?


     
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    The irony is this lady is a big loser
     
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    You think so? Why?
     
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    I'm half joking, but she doesn't seem very interesting to me personally
     
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    Yeah, I'm actually used to hearing negative things about what men do wrong in relationships and dating. Maybe it's for the better though because I wouldn't want to let anyone down.
     
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    This woman is sort of feeding into the narrative that you are used to, so I would be careful about that.
    She does say a lot of really good things, it's important to try to embody a lot of the things she does talk about for sure.
    It may not fully make sense, but letting people down is an inevitability. It's more about how you handle yourself when you do let others down.
    I think you are probably pretty good at being graceful during those times, but I don't know you well enough to say for certain.
     
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    How can you say that? I've been here for half a decade.

    I've given you the best years of my life.
     
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    :tearsofjoy: well I said I was pretty sure, idk what you do irl tho
     
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    I didn’t hear any of it because I was distracted by her lip filler. I tried not to be, but I fell into the Uncanny Valley and I couldn’t climb back out.

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    Ren Pin's android / Baroque Spinoza / ≅ ENFJ

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    Her content seems to be a lot about power dynamics and not a lot about, you know... love.

    It'd be interesting to hear a female take on her videos.
     
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    Different classes couple for different reasons.

    Also, power dynamics is one of the primary means by which to achieve sexual arousal in human beings. Perhaps her arousal style is a strong influence on how she sees, judges, and speaks about relationships, and men in particular.

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    I think these are very shallow bases of what partnership ought to be about. Sometimes Youtube is mentally dangerous.
     
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    Yes, I think you might be onto something here.

    I thought so too. She has a course on how to identify affluent men. *smh*
     
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    Well uh. She seems way too high handed to me. She seems to only want the "elite" men and you know she even mentioned a website where she talks about meeting elite men and it was called "millionaire" something or other. Also she's been called bimbo and gold digger obviously....
    Hmmmmmmm I wonder whyyyyy :p

    She does say alot of good things but even a broken clock is right twice a day. She just rubbed me the wrong way. Like Min said, shallow. But we don't know her irl so maybe not. *shrugs*
     
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    In case anyone wants a TL;DW:

    1. He doesn't put in over 50% financially. This means he's not stepping into his masculine role, not a provider, not generous.
    2. If he makes you feel inappropriate for wanting commitment.
    3. He's flaky, ghosts you, vanishes, is unreliable. If he does this more than once, he's a loser. If he really likes you, he'll move mountains. Men are spoiled today, so this is a common problem.
    4. Lacks depth. Has no other interests than watching football, drinking beer, playing videogames and watching porn.
    5. He lacks any form of basic gentleman skills. As in: holding doors, he offers his jacket, walks in front of her, selfish in bed.
    6. He starts manipulating you. Getting aggressive when you put up boundaries, resistant to change.
    7. Your in a serious relationship but he's a fuckboy who's still clubbing, partying and so forth.

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    I think some of these could be grouped together. 4, 5 and 7 are likely symptoms of being immature and/or inexperienced. 2 and 6 are essentially gaslighting.

    Overall, I don't disagree but that's because I believe women are allowed to have their standards. But I also believe women can have standards that are so delusional and/or entitled, they price themselves out of the dating market. I think if most women tried to follow this advice, they would end up disillusioned.
     
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    Lip fillers are expensive.
     
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    I haven't watched the video. With these types of things, it's just important to keep perspective - one person's opinion/preference does not dictate reality.
     
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    Very true.
     
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