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  • Waiting for you ma'am. ^_^ I still need to download it too. Haven't finished Hannibal yet either, decided to plow through and finish reading Clash of Kings (which I did!).
    My mom took my 5 yr old today to the shore, so I just have the baby. So that is some relief. My mom is trying to come by when she can, but she also has her life and work to attend to. His mom came by one day last week to watch the kids for a couple of hours while I took J to the doctor. She hired someone to take care of my fil so she doesn't have to deal with that by herself. She is not great in these situations so I don't expect that much from her. So it's basically my mom trying to help out. She is a pain in my ass sometimes, but I appreciate her more than she knows.

    We haven't seen his father since the surgery, which might be for the best. He has talked to him on the phone, but that's about it. Oh, and he feels great! No pain. I talked to my mil about hiring a nutritionist and giving the aide an exercise schedule for my fil to follow and to make sure he follows it every day. A list was given to my mil of foods to buy at the store for the aide to cook for him, that way he is eating healthy. If he has J's kidney, I am going to make sure that he takes care of it just as good as J did. And if he doesn't, he was told he won't see me or his grand kids ever again. Yes, I am being a bitch about it, but oh well. He obviously needs tough love if he is going to change for the better. I am the opposite of an enabler and I won't stand for his bs anymore now that we had to go through all of this.

    And thank you for the kind words :) I'm definitely not a saint though. :) I am just handling this the best way I can out of love and respect for my husband.
    Yeah, it was kind of a bummer, but..it is alright! I would rather do it when the weather is nicer and my work won't get ruined anyway! So I guess that is okay. I am just glad that they are still going to do it at all!
    J is still in a lot of pain. He told the doctor that if he knew how much it would hurt, he would not have done it. I call bullshit on that, but yeah, that much pain. We went to his follow up appt last week and they said he will feel like this for a least 8 weeks. It's difficult for him to walk, get out of bed, use the bathroom…he can't hold/pick up the kids for 8 weeks. It's very difficult for both of us since I'm stuck playing mom and dad to the little ones. I'm not complaining, but I have never been this stressed in my life. Even to hand the baby off to him for a minute can't happen.
    In the past year (since having my son) I have been able to work from home the majority of the time, so that helps, but I had to take leave for this. I had no idea how hard it would be to do this on my own. And he thought he would be good in two weeks. We were both wrong. He walks around like a geriatric patient right now. Maybe even slower and possibly more slumped over, lol. He's out of it. I won't lie, I am pissed. I am so mad at his father. I know I shouldn't look at it that way, but it can't help it. He was warned years ago that it could come to this but he didn't listen and now here we are. I visited him (his father) once when J was in the hospital. He was one floor down, but I didn't want to see him. The only time I did was right after he got out of surgery. I wanted to check on him so that I could tell J that he was okay. Does it make me a bad person? Maybe. But it's honest.
    The kids are good. It's tough for them b/c the baby wants to be held by daddy and my 5 yr old wants to wrestle with daddy, but they can't for a while.
    I really can't wait till he is better. He keeps apologizing to me. I told him not to. But I do expect one from his father. And maybe a “thank you” for J.

    And thank you for asking. :)
    There is only one choice if you wish to regain your honor.

    Take this blade *hands say what a katana* and cleanse Reddit of trolls and bigots.

    You will most likely go insane from the stupidity, but it is at least a chance for redemption.
    Much better than yesterday! I do appreciate your inquiry; it is very kind. That Muir is a smart one, he gnows the score, hehe.

    BTW, you're cute. ;)
    You don't need to feel bad for me. There are numerous people who hate themselves so I get plenty of sex.
    By the way, I totally agree with muir and yourself; "science" desperately needs to chill the heck out out and smoke a big, fat joint!
    YES! I still need to finish laundry and cook dinner but I will be on skype shortly.
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