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Would you rather be wanted or needed?

Discussion in 'Relationships and Sociology' started by Eventhorizon, Mar 30, 2015.

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    Both? I miss the idea of being wanted, but I also like being needed because as @Misty mentioned, being needed may lead to being wanted. However, I don't just want to be needed, because then people just want to use you, get what they need, and disappear vs. appreciate and reciprocate. It's nice to have a balance of both. I am nervous about just want because I think wants can be fickle as well. Do you want me for the long term or short term? If your mind changes too quickly or easily about what you want and your wants change at a whim, then I don't want to be wanted by someone for the interim. I am a commitment person, if I want you, I want you, so I am NOT going to play games. If you're going to be inconsistent in your wants, then bye!
     
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    Totally agree, Gaze. <3 Well said. ^
     
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    I don't think it's really a simple black or white kind of thing. We want to be needed, we need to be wanted, etc. We always connect in dynamic ways.

    But let's ask Cheap Trick :)
     
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    To be needed because I am loved, not loved because I am needed.
     
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