Why Do Women Compete For Men?

Artemisia

Artemisia

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What's the point? I know that many men relish making women compete for them but what's in it for the women?

I have always been the type of person who would lose interest in a guy if I realized that he was trying to get a bunch of women to compete for him. So what sort of personalities would, in fact, compete for a guy?
 
I have actually never seen this in real life, so I can't answer based on experience but I would assume that it would follow the same pattern as fame. Why do some people cry and get ridiculous when they see Justin Bieber? I could meet that kid in an elevator and not care whatsoever. People are all different levels of sane, secure, etc.
 
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How do you define competition? Are we talking "reality tv style" here?
 
I define competition as: "I am going to give him more attention because SHE is giving him more than me at this time. I will put her down. spread nasty rumors about her, and let him know how low-level she is. After all is done, he will be mine."
 
Women compete for me because I'm amazing. I actually have a mini arena built in my back yard where thrice weekly I hold gladiator style death matches. Winner gets me. Unfortunately, no one has won "the prize" because I don't really go for the "badass tough chick" they're intimidating to me. I also prefer a woman with no cuts, bruises or broken limbs.
 
In my entire life, I have never seen women compete for men. I have seen and heard men *talking* about women competing for them, but it wasn't any women I knew. Not doubting it happens, just it's not something that I perceive as being particularly common.

As a general rule, I try to avoid people who use others to try and manipulate their image. The man and the situation you describe is one I would make a beeline around too.
 
Artemisia said:
I define competition as: "I am going to give him more attention because SHE is giving him more than me at this time. I will put her down. spread nasty rumors about her, and let him know how low-level she is. After all is done, he will be mine."
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Oh, OK then.

Not since middle school, but then again, they could hardly be called women at that point, and who they were competing over wasn’t a man by any stretch of the imagination.

Given your posts, I get the sense you and your work cohort are somehow trapped in a set of social behaviors appropriate for 11- to 13-year-olds, with just a dash of adult sex so it isn’t totally After-School-Special.

I’m not sure if it is funny or sad (or both) that it all so neatly parallels a few well-worn sex stereotypes of those in academia. If fictionalized and shot to video, it would likely be filed next to “librarian porn.”


Cheers,
Ian
 
Milktoast Bandit said:
Women compete for me because I'm amazing. I actually have a mini arena built in my back yard where thrice weekly I hold gladiator style death matches. Winner gets me. Unfortunately, no one has won "the prize" because I don't really go for the "badass tough chick" they're intimidating to me. I also prefer a woman with no cuts, bruises or broken limbs.
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Only one way to settle this...

THUNDER DOME!!!
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aeon said:
Oh, OK then.

Not since middle school, but then again, they could hardly be called women at that point, and who they were competing over wasn’t a man by any stretch of the imagination.

Given your posts, I get the sense you and your work cohort are somehow trapped in a set of social behaviors appropriate for 11- to 13-year-olds, with just a dash of adult sex so it isn’t totally After-School-Special.

I’m not sure if it is funny or sad (or both) that it all so neatly parallels a few well-worn sex stereotypes of those in academia. If fictionalized and shot to video, it would likely be filed next to “librarian porn.”


Cheers,
Ian
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Ummm, no, that's not how academics are for the most part. And despite popular opinion, most academics don't get any less sex than your average person out there.
 
Artemisia said:
And despite popular opinion, most academics don't get any less sex than your average person out there.
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Indeed, statistically more, with a greater rate of infidelity, hence the stereotypes.


Cheers,
Ian
 
This is a bit straying from topic, but I've worked in environments that were female dominated approx 65/70% women. I think women can be highly competitive amongst each other albeit usually in more subtle ways than men. Not just in terms of competing for men, just general one upmanship.

I've noticed that in all female teams things sometimes got very nasty. Men tend to be a lot more basic and crude etc. For me women "fight with words" where did she get THAT dress/shoes/lipstick etc.

Probably there's some evolutionary role at play, by definition nature is a competitive thing. It's complex in that cooperative symbiotic behaviors are also present. Quite often I think men are the last thing involved when women fall out.
 
Sandie33 said:
Oh my...reading these posts has me baffled. Thought folks came together because they want to be together? And what happens to the shiny-won trophy once gotten after battle?
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Depends a lot on the woman, but my experience is, once the "trophy" is won, it gets left out in the elements to decompose.

That's why these "games" are rubbish. They're not authentic.
 
Artemisia said:
Ummm, no, that's not how academics are for the most part.
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No, by your own account:

Artemisia said:
I work in academia so scandalous behavior is quite common even if society in general regards academics highly.
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What would you regard as scandalous, and does any of it intersect with the competition for men behaviors?


Thanks,
Ian
 
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