what do you call this?

How old are you? When did you meet this girl? What has your relationship been like up until these feelings? Do you think she feels the same way? What are they feelings like? Are you interested in her physically, or because of her personality?

 

I would think that the emotion is some kind of Anxiety. Since it revolves around her and is On/Off.

 

Haha yea, it would be funny if you were scared of her.

Anxiety occurs without an identifiable trigger. It is distinguished from fear, because there is no observed threat.
Sometimes it arises as a future-oriented state in which one prepares to attempt to cope with an upcoming imagined negative event.

 

Hmmm, this is my own personal opinion;

I think that you are good friends and that what is happening is your brain is going toward the base instincts. What I mean by that is, subconsciously you want to sleep with her. Don't worry it's nothing bad. Humans have evolved to ignore most of what our genes tell us anyway.

It sounds like a fleeting schoolboy crush, I had one on Shakira when she first came out with "Whenever, wherever". You are spending time with her and so your hormones are reacting to that, happens to us all. Even in the best of friends who are male/female have some under toe of this. Most of the time it isn;t recognised, either because you are too close as friends to notice, or because of a pre existing intimate relationship with another person.

I think in your case you are really good friends so you have the weird instinct you want to reproduce with her (because that is all it is) but the logical human portion (because no other animal has it) is saying "Dude.... she is your buddy".

The solution: Well, I am a huge fan of becoming friends with benefits personally, but that doesn't suit most people, in fact most people don't like the idea at all.
I suppose you could just ignore it, the feelings will go away but you will be quite confused, the only worry with this direction is that your feelings might actually start developing.

The main thing to focus on is that you are pretty certain she thinks of you as a friend, and women are more removed from that natural drive for sex so friendship means alot to them. I would try to throw your focus in another direction, maybe there is someone else you like? I don't know.

If this makes sense good, if it doesn't then tell me and I will take another stab from another angle

The problem for me is that usually when I get feelings like this, I pursue them, and they never affect my friendships, as long as everyone knows what it means but most importantly what is does NOT mean.

 

Hahah exactly! I think I know what you are experiencing now and I'm very familiar with it myself. All I know is that it will either turn into real feelings or subside. ^^

By solely thinking about 'if it could turn into a relationship' in itself include so many more unconscious things like 'fear of change and if it will work out and what if it doesnt etc' which in turn will create fear as you two are first and foremost friends.

Try to focus on the presense and somewhat keep your feet on the ground ^^