I've seriously dated one INFJ and went out once with another INFJ. Also dated ISFPs, an ENFJ, and a few others who I didn't bother to type. Right now I'm dating an ESFJ. The standard disclosure, of course, is that types shouldn't control one's outlook, but I've come to the point in which I feel INFJs are the full package of what I'm looking for. Brains, depth, sensitivity, caring, loyalty, perfectionism, femininity, and some kind of psychic sexiness involved. So I guess I fell in love with the profile (and was also attracted to the INFJs for the same reasons which I've mentioned). Also, my criteria for women also require that they be of the same ethnicity. I think this is partly because of some pedestal which I've put an ideal form of a girl/INFJ which the girls I date can't seem to satisfy. Being in the late 20s, I'm beginning to wonder whether it's worth my effort to hold out and wait for that INFJ who will satisfy my craving, or really just try and work stuff out with non-INFJs. Pro-INFJ: Pretty much what I want in a girl. The first INFJ (and first girl as well) I've ever dated freaked me out in how close we got. No girl since her has ever pushed all of my buttons the right way that she did. I'm not idealizing the "first time"; objectively, we connected in a way I have never felt connected with any other girl/type. I broke up with her later for good reasons. But she got me hooked on INFJs ever since, and reading the MBTI personality profiles reinforced this notion. Anti-INFJ: Hard to find, especially of the same ethnicity. Also, the second (and last) INFJ I dated was unhealthy and we didn't get very far. So I think my chances of finding a healthy, same-ethnicity INFJ is very, very slim. The reason I'm putting this up is because I'm idealistic and hate to be boxed into a less-than-desirable relationship. With the ESFJ I'm currently dating, we obviously have a harder time reconciling interests and communication methods. I'm kind of evaluating whether it's worth my time, especially in the future when I might be thinking, "Gee, why am I trying so hard with this ESFJ when I could have..." Anyway, just contemplating whether to settle and try my best with some girl who may not necessarily be my "ideal type", and dread the grass-is-greener syndrome when things goes awry, or hold out in my pseudo-fantasy and wait for an INFJ who may or may not ever show up?