to smile or not to smile?

Well if someone is making you uncomfortable by something that they are doing then you shouldn't encourage it just to try not to be rude. I'm a people person and for the most part I like everybody, but if I get a bad vibe from someone than I most certainly trust it. Especially if this guy is so much older than you sweetheart, this situation you've described to me makes me nervous because I'm very aware of sexual predators.

When I was younger I was molested and growing up I had men who ogled me, tried to corner me, and even tried to pick me up when I was walking home from school alone. I lived in a really bad neighborhood and thankfully I was never kidnapped. But that's not to say it never happened to other people where I'm from.

I don't mean to scare you, and I'm truly sorry if I am. But I would just say to please please be careful. I could be blowing this way out of proportion, but I would rather tell you to be careful than to try not to be rude and smile back, just from what I've been through. Also, try not to find yourself alone with this guy.

If you choose to confront the situation and ask this person why he's always smiling at you, then please do so with one of you bigger male friends. Or possibly a big brother. Because if you have a big brother you could nip this situation in the bud right now and I would. I just worry about the age difference in you and this guy. If it were a young kid your age, I would say he might just be a bit awkward and likes you and I would say then to also confront him with a friend, and try to find out his agenda in a less rude way. Then you could just tell him you're not interested. But because he's older... well I feel like you have a right to worry. Especially if he's in his 30's like you said he might be.

 

Wow, sometimes I'm glad I'm not a woman.

 

I second that.

But I agree Soulseeker, you should becareful. You never know with what kind of creeps you encounter. Take care ok.

 

I do this to creep out my coworkers, but I'm not sexually interested in any of them, seeing as they're mostly guys.

It sounds like he's really a creep, though. If he's that much older and you smile back he may get the wrong impression. Does he have a molestache? If so, alert Chris Hansen with Dateline NBC.

 

I don't think the question is "to smile or not to smile," but instead, "to smite or not to smite."

 

At the risk of seeming rude or getting the guy to think you're a witch, I think you need to stop reciprocating. I've been sexually harrassed by much older men at my jobs, as well as men my age. I've a very nice person and try my best to never be rude to others. However, at some point you kinda' have to be to get them to stop. It sucks and you'll feel guilty afterward, but it's in your best interest. I've had an older guy at work constantly tell me I'm sexy and asking me to back up or turn around for him so he can see me from all angles (I was 19 at time and he was in his 50s). I've had a guy stand outside my cube and stare at me for minutes at a time without saying a word (I had a small rear-view mirror thing on my monitor, so I could see him without him knowing). I was always nice to him, even though he creeped me out. One day, I found him following me home to my apartment. I lived in the complex to where you must take a very circuitous route and he followed me every step of the way...tailed me, like they do in the movies when they're following someone but not wanting to be noticed. With that said, I immediately stopped smiling and saying "hi". It caused him to confront me, but I responded by saying "I saw you. I know you were there. Don't ever talk to me again." After that, I never saw him follow me or stare at me again.

With that said, you need to be very careful about this guy. He could be following you, too. Be on alert at all times and always be aware of your surroundings. Had I not noticed that guy following me, Lord knows what could have happened. I kept driving and left the complex so as not to let him know which on I live in. He could have hurt me. He could have turned into a peeping tom. Whatever. Please, be careful and do not smile back at this guy. Even more, you may want to kinda' give him a look once or twice when he's staring at you to let him know that you're not OK with him doing that.

 

Seriously, this is for his own good as much as yours. Don't worry about making him feel bad. If you really feel threatened about how he might act if you upset him, then seek help from someone in the same environment as you, preferably someone with authority. If that ends up being unnecessary, hopefully he'll learn something from about how to behave towards people, and if it is necessary, you'll be glad you did get that help.

 

Forget about smiling and call the police.

 

RUN!!!! NOW!!!! Older guys in my family don't even pinch me! Alert your family because you're not safe. You could be putting them in danger, too. Please.

 

...or smile back, in a sinister way, while opening and closing your penknife.

 

Please be both careful and cautious. Do not feed him.

 

If he's smiling thatmuch, I think his intentions are pretty clear. He is a creeper--->>STAY AWAY as much as possible. If you're alone and you see someon who even MIGHT be him, turn around and run the other way. That is freaky. Don't trust him, and be careful.

After time, people start to become attracted to people that they are in constant contact with, so while he may have used to be a nice, normal guy, I think his preference's have been slightly altered from his age, to 16. That's creepy...

 

You might want to warn the other dancers.