The things we don't talk about

What are some things that people don't talk about, but you really wish they would?
I wish people would talk about the prospect of abortion more often or have it be acceptable to say you've had one. As well as miscarriages, this can have a terrible psychological effect on people. They get stuck in thinking about whether or not they did the right thing. It's a decision you can't take back and things like that can destroy people. BUT, it needs to be an accessible option for all. All of the pregnant teenagers should not be forced to have a baby they can't take care of.

Why do you think these things are not discussed enough?
I think the whole "religious" and "taboo" factor keep people from discussing things like this. People are afraid they'll be judged to hell by someone who doesn't even understand why they had an abortion in the first place.

 

Being forced to have one is different, I think. It's crazy to think that he would have done that to his daughter. When I went through a similar experience (although I was a few years older) my mom laid out all the options for me. She told me I could keep it, put it up for adoption, or get an abortion and she would stand by me the entire way. I ended up picking to get an abortion since I was only six weeks and during that period you can just take a pill at home. I cried for days and thought I was a horrible person, but I know now that I made the right decision. I wasn't ready to raise a baby and there is no way I would have been able to give it up once I saw it.

 

I guess not really talk about but let happen. It seems everyone around me (family at least) holds in emotion so much. Everyone is afraid of breaking social norms and getting emotional. And therefor they don't deal with the problems.

I wish people would talk about depression and suicide and just let things like this be discussed instead of pushing it under the rug.

 

I think if we discussed things like this there wouldn't be so much suicide in the first place. People can't let out their problems and end up feeling like there is no answer to them. It's important to have a place where you can let out your feelings. That's why therapists get paid so much.

 

Agreed people shut down when you need them the most. I've learned to be a good listener and keep my mouth shut so people can get things out in the open.

 

i wish people talked about political corruption and social discrimination (of all sorts) more often, so hopefully such things wouldn't happen as often as they do.

edit: also history. i really wish people were more aware of and talked more about what has happened in the past, since otherwise we're liable to make the same mistakes as our predecessors.

 

Very true - depression is absolutely taboo almost everywhere, despite being so common.

 

i think depression is talked about a lot more than it used to be, and certainly more often than some mental illnesses, like schizophrenia. we're getting there

also, that depression seems so common is i think more a reflection of the fact that it is so frequently talked about, rather than it actually being commonplace. lots of people who think they're depressed are probably just sad. similarly though, lots of people who think they're fine might actually be depressed and not quantify it as such, because the public image of depression paints sufferers as totally inconsolable and listless, which is not always the case.

 

Yeah, i went through my childhood with no professional diagnosis but i know something was wrong. But it was chalked up to childhood withdrawal and not being well adjusted. It was easy for everyone to write you off as a socially awkward or weird child. No one tried to understand. I relied quite a bit on my faith during those years to get me through.

 

Yeah, i went through my childhood with no professional psych diagnosis but i knew something was wrong. But it was chalked up to weak disposition, inablity to be tough or "thick skinned", childhood withdrawal, and not being well adjusted. It was easy for everyone to write someone off as a socially awkward or weird child, rather than offer support or understanding. I relied quite a bit on my faith during those years to get me through some difficult times.

 

I think depression tends to become more commonplace as society moves away from existing to support its people and rather to support its businesses. Individuals seem to become more commodity than anything else. Some people are more sensitive to this than others.

I just don't think it makes sense in the long term to globally support the group of people that can hoarde new resources the quickest and find the best way to exploit them. It is short-sighted and rife with potential negative consequences.

 

These....

And I can say they both tied into each other for me...

I was a screwed up teenager...I think I cried every night from 12-15 years old.

Sports ended up being my outlet.

 

Whether they have been abused or are currently involved in an abusive situation...
Instead of keeping it a secret, blaming themselves, and/or denying the abuse altogether..

It's not discussed because victims of abuse are usually shamed into believing it is their fault.

I wish it were discussed more so that people could be more aware of abusive tendencies in others before they get involved with a psycho (romantic partnership-wise).



I also think self-love needs to be taught and encouraged more in people because a healthy self-esteem in itself helps to prevent abusive partnerships.

 

...some great points here...

I wish people in general were just more open...

 

Or because then they'd have to own up to the fact that this system doesn't work.