the silent treatment

Leave her a message if you haven't yet

 

Give her some space then apologize to her first, (It seems you've mentioned you've hurt each other's feelings that's why I'm saying this) then see what happens, a relationship of any nature friendship or otherwise I which the other person doesn't ever acknowledge when they hurt you isn't worth pursuing if it become neglectful over time, but because of the fact that, as you've mentioned, isn't that big of a deal I wouldn't respond too drastically.

 

Statement: The silent treatment is a way of solving a problem without really addressing it.

 

So, not really for no apparent reason.

Perhaps it was not so small to her after all. It might be worth thinking back on what both of you said, and how each other's words hurt you, and if you come to a realization you can express that to her, though I wouldn't recommend stressing that you don't feel her reasons or feelings are invalid if you sincerely want to repair this rift.

It's hard when you're hurt for what you feel is a valid reason, and the other person is dismissive of it, but if she won't discuss it face to face or over the phone, you could try a letter.

Be careful what you write though. Read it several times before sending it. I'd focus on the positives worth saving in the relationship rather than the negatives of her backing away from you.

 

I think you should apologize, see how she reacts (like if she opens up and tells you why she's been avoiding you), and then leave it alone until she warms up to you again.
I mean, she might not even realize you feel this way and she's just been busy or something.
Hope it all works out

 

If she's INTJ, you probably should've asked on the INTJ forum as well.

It could just be that you annoyed the hell out of her. Just give it some time (say a week or two), and then try to make amends.

 

Hmmmm, you said you really like this girl. Is it that you want to go beyond the friendship but the girl just wants to be friends and so she is kind of avoiding you? Regardless of what it is, the best way for you is to tell her earnestly everything that you have told us here. If she is not answering, leave her a voice message. You can write to her too but I think a voice message is more direct. Then give her time and space. Let her tell you what's on her mind and respect what she is going to tell you.

 

Do you understand and respect what she does for work?

Also, to argue for time with an INTJ shows a lack of respect for their time. Not only did you use her limited time for an argument, but you may have also interfered with the work she needed/wanted to do once the argument was verbally finished.

If she's plain not talking to you, I suspect you may have said something really bad.

INTJs will measure quite a few things by asking "Does it work?"

Were you obviously personally insulting? Or do you not really understand what she interpreted from the conversation?

 

Oh I am very sorry Catch, I feel for you. Maybe you can buy her a nice 'I love you/ I'm sorry card'f or valentines day, if you guys have not made up untill then. You know, surprise the girl