Feeler types are not all cuddles and cookies.
Obviously.
Obviously. My recent experiences with some feeling types affirm this more than ever.
For example, I met an ISFJ who seems quite stuck up and unfriendly (her argument style, when it surfaces is more aggressive than average). But her children are her entire world, which is not unusual for ISFJs, in addition she manifests a somewhat subdued need to help people, but this is not something that most people would intuit from first glance.
In addition, I also met a rather troubled ENFP male who actually seems very misanthropic, and doesnt participate freely in group activities. I havent known him for very long, but he possesses a very strong aesthetic sense, and his shadow type (same functions, but in opposite order) is ISTJ, which make sense since I have difficulty attempting to map non ENFP/ISTJ functions onto his personality.
Also keep in mind, it is the E's which are more relationship oriented than the F's. EF's are strongly relationship oriented because:
E= Relationship-oriented (quantity)
F= Values oriented
An ESTP can seem like an F in some circumstances because they are more relationship oriented by nature, than an IF. Not very many people are robotic, if you really look.
I think it makes sense for NFs (especially introverts) to be sort of hardened on the outside... we have principals that we often don't see reflected in the world.
Yeah, there's frustration. I know exactly what you mean when you mention feeling "misanthropic and over-critical."
I would say those are negative coping mechanisms. With more maturity and life experience, I suppose NFs can overcome the negative bouts and learn to do something constructive with that energy.
Agreed.