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Artemisia said:
Brag? What am I bragging about? I am disparaging the fact that most men play games and can't be trusted. Just because I said that I am attractive and a lot of men have propositioned me does not mean that I am bragging. I am sure that these guys have propositioned lots of other women at the same time. Once a cheater, always a cheater.....
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That's why its a humble brag:
to make an ostensibly modest or self-deprecating statement with the actual intention of drawing attention to something of which one is proud.

In this thread you've gone on and on describing how men proposition you for sex, how attractive you are, and also how much more moral you are because you won't take up all these men on their offers.
 
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In this thread you've gone on and on describing how men proposition you for sex, how attractive you are, and also how much more moral you are because you won't take up all these men on their offers.
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Which is the truth. Is being honest now labeled as humble bragging?

The fact of the matter is that there are a lot of women like me out there who could learn something from my experiences. I admit that I have not been the best judge of character in the past, but experience is the best teacher. There are too many game players out there and it is good to recognize the signs.
 
Artemisia said:
Why is it that men supposedly want to chase you but once they get you they want you to chase them? If you do, you are needy and it is a turn off but if you don't their egos get hurt.

I recently had a case where two of my exes who came on strong in the beginning removed me from Skype and Facebook. I was into both guys while we were together for a few months and after realizing that they were not as interested and/or seeing others, I called it quits with them and basically moved on. Both have reached out again in the following months and I replied. In the meantime I had both on FB and Skype but did not comment or talk to them. One day I see that guy 1 had removed me from FB but not Skype. Today guy 2 removed me from Skype but not FB. It is obvious that they think women are desperate so if they leave one line of communication open she may beg to get them back. Yeah right!!!

Seriously why do men play these games?
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The two exes came on strong at first and then deleted you from FB and Skype. Why? There has to be a reason they felt the need to completely remove you from their contacts. Maybe it's just me, but I would think that for a man to do that, he must have felt it was very necessary. Did you flip out at them over nonsense? I'm curious.

Also, if I remember correctly, you come on very strong early in a relationship.

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Maybe they liked you but you got too serious too fast and they jetted. They gave you some time to calm down and then after you seemed to pull it together, they decided to re-enter the picture. They like you...they just don't like the crazy.

What do you think?
 
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Artemisia said:
Which is the truth. Is being honest now labeled as humble bragging?

The fact of the matter is that there are a lot of women like me out there who could learn something from my experiences. I admit that I have not been the best judge of character in the past, but experience is the best teacher. There are too many game players out there and it is good to recognize the signs.
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There's honest and then there is honest. Come on now.
 
Artemisia said:
In the past month, three of my married guy friends propositioned me for sex. The one who wanted to go to the Greek islands with me has done so again today and I had to tell him off.
Do these guys think that they are that hot? I mean one of them is very nice looking but do they ever thing that a) they are ruining their relationships with their wives (hey, I COULD tell wifey) b) they will probably ruin their friendship with me and c) what's in it for me?

One of them even told me to please not tell anyone he propositioned me after I turned him down as we have several friends in common.

Sorry I keep ranting about this issue. I just feel disgusted.
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This made me think quite a bit. Random guys will try to talk to me sometimes and people at work or who are counted among my friends might flirt a little or touch my shoulder and some will develop crushes but I have never, ever been propositioned. I believe but am not sure that I give off a vibe that says don't even try it. I find the amount of times you have been propositioned fascinating. You must be very pretty but also very approachable in that way. Still, you seem so dramatically opposed to sex with these men, so what makes them think you might say yes? or do they enjoy being repeatedly shut down?
 
dang said:
Just saw They Live on the big screen. Have you done so as well? If not, that can be our date movie. For dinner, do you prefer steak, sushi, or seafood?
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Totally down for that.

Steak, medium well...

Chocolate desert?
 
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Sinny said:
Totally down for that.

Steak, medium well...

Chocolate desert?
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Alright, steak, chocolate cake with ice cream, and then what will you be drinking? Wine, beer, cocktails, all of the above? Remember, you will already be pretty high by dinner so choose wisely. I just had a cheeseburger with a fried egg on top for dinner Saturday. Plus it had sweet bacon jam. So damn good. I am getting hungry again. Now that I am becoming more social, I actually think we could have a fun time together, as long as you don't turn into a belligerent drunk. It is going to be around 90 at the beach tomorrow. Summer is here and the time is right for dancing in the streets. Full moon and summer solstice and clear skies? Nice.
 
I never play games. It tends to confuse people who expect me do so. Honesty is my only policy. It seems many people are more comfortable with game playing than with honesty and directness. I love playful bluntness. Just be straight with me and I will always return the favor.
 
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This made me think quite a bit. Random guys will try to talk to me sometimes and people at work or who are counted among my friends might flirt a little or touch my shoulder and some will develop crushes but I have never, ever been propositioned. I believe but am not sure that I give off a vibe that says don't even try it. I find the amount of times you have been propositioned fascinating. You must be very pretty but also very approachable in that way. Still, you seem so dramatically opposed to sex with these men, so what makes them think you might say yes? or do they enjoy being repeatedly shut down?
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I think it's more the unattainable aspect. The more you say no, the harder they try. Plus part of me thinks that these guys hit on a bunch of different women because they are either bored with their spouses or have recently had a fight and are not getting any attention. They hit on their female friends and other women in order to have their egos stroked so....... whoever falls for the bait. Once they are back on the good sides of their spouses they start to ignore you until they need their next hit.
 
Personally, I've never played games with anyone emotionally in relationships.

What would you gain from that some kind of 'twisted thrill' ? I guess some guys maybe do behave that way, but I doubt that it's only men. For me that kind of behavior can only ever lead to heartache, eventually more for the guilty party than the recipient.
 
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Where I live finding weed is like finding food. You can get high on my rooftop with a sea view, and then we can eat, drink, and be merry. Then we can watch a good thriller (like the Conversation) and then hit up some local bars and clubs. We will end up at a party filled with beautiful models. I will go home with a sexy woman, you will return to your hotel room with at least one sexy male model. We will both fall asleep very satisfied and relaxed if you know what I mean (and I know you do). After sleeping in late we can join up the next day for a late brunch and then do it all again. How does that sound? Great food, alcohlol, pot, film, conversation, music, sex, and views. Are you down? Like I said, pick you up at 7. Don't be late. There are some very pretty American boys who are just dying to meet you. Don't disappoint them. All they want to do is get high and then get naked. And they love English accents. I feel like I am trying to convince everyone on this forum to come and visit me. I am lonely.
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I miss you so much.
 
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Artemisia said:
Why is it that men supposedly want to chase you but once they get you they want you to chase them? If you do, you are needy and it is a turn off but if you don't their egos get hurt.
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I think a lot of complications arise from the fact that most people are settling, taking what they can get. When you're not with or flirting with your first choice, attraction waxes and wanes.

Seriously why do men play these games?
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They're testing the waters, figuring out what they're capable of getting. If a lot of options come easy, they know they can do better.
 
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For example, my boyfriend is very fond of playing in villento. I did not understand this at first. But then I read villento casino review and tried it myself. And this is really very interesting. Here you have to think a lot and apply different game strategies.
 
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For example, my boyfriend is very fond of playing in villento. I did not understand this at first. But then I read villento casino review and tried it myself. And this is really very interesting. Here you have to think a lot and apply different game strategies.
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GUISE ITS A REAL LIFE ROBUT :screamcat:

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I haven’t read through the posts in here but I will tell you that most men have egos and the ability to belittle women, sometimes without realizing it. And yes sure there are asshole women out there as well. Games are for children and if a man is playing games you need to send him packing. Toodles mofo!
 
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