Taking in unnecessary responsibility

I have limited experience with this. I co-founded a reasonably well travelled IRC channel and I sometimes had to do this, but I only crawled out of the shadows and put on my nanny hat if shit really hit the fan. That way when I did speak people would generally listen.

Either way if it's not making you happy then you should just stop. It is not your duty to babysit the way other people feel and keep the peace. Just let them go at it, it's not your problem.

 

I learned this the hard way, to just let people do whatever they wanted to do because it isn't worth being increasingly frustrated over something that doesn't pertain to you. Let others come to you instead.

 

I do it too. Mostly because my ego is very large, and I take responsibility for my secondary locus of control as well.

 

If I am a group of people and drama is about to go down, I leave. I can't stand that crap, and I don't want to become the lightning rod for trying to break everyone up. I've broken up fights before and had positions where I had to mitigate this kind of fighting, but for the most part I hate it and I want to avoid it. I usually don't know how to make people stop fighting except by screaming at them because if it is a fist fight then what else can I do, and if it is an argument I usually get lashed at and take it very personally, which I don't handle well.

No, I don't feel responsible for other people's emotions. If they want to hate each other and fight over something stupid, that is their problem.