Been delaying posting this as I'm...roar...embarrassed. May as well get it on out...
Okay..
My husband and I are officially back together! We have been talking and having these tremendously healing conversations, and the times he came here before were revealing and eye-opening. We did some awesome soul-searching. We want our family back. He is moving here to Michigan within the next week. We've put our house up for sale in WA and said eff-it. We're starting over and raising our crazy cute children together.
So, I basically ended the friendship I had with the ENTP fellow. I also let my husband know I had the relationship with him, and I also let him know that I was ending it. So far so good.
I did it because I needed to establish the boundary and I needed to tell the truth. ENTP and I had some cosmic times together, but my Husband is meant to be my Husband, I am sure of this from the bottom of my soul.
HOWEVER, I still see the ENTP guy maybe once a week because we are in the same social circle, and maybe I'm reaching, but I sense that perhaps he is in that same place because I am there (???) Gawd I sound vain, but my gut is telling me this. Because I have not seen him at this place, which is why I go there...
I say "hello" and go on about my business but somehow he seems to be within feet of me at all times. I'm not necessarily uncomfortable, but I don't know if there is a motive, and I think that is what is perplexing me. Okay, I do think there is a motive, but I'm not so forward to be like "wtf, yo?" and really, it did not end on bad terms, so why make it into something like that? And I really don't positively, concretely know.
But really....should I just not say anything because it's really not that serious? Maybe it's just the residual feelings or maybe he's just one of those soulmates and will just always be around in general so perhaps I should get used to it. I trust myself to be loyal to my Husband, so perhaps I'm just making too big a deal.
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? I don't know wtf I'm doing here. Kinda pissed at myself that I'm even in such a situation but I shouldn't be, especially all I've learned from it.
Any of yall Wise People have some insight? Thanks!
Okay..
My husband and I are officially back together! We have been talking and having these tremendously healing conversations, and the times he came here before were revealing and eye-opening. We did some awesome soul-searching. We want our family back. He is moving here to Michigan within the next week. We've put our house up for sale in WA and said eff-it. We're starting over and raising our crazy cute children together.
So, I basically ended the friendship I had with the ENTP fellow. I also let my husband know I had the relationship with him, and I also let him know that I was ending it. So far so good.
I did it because I needed to establish the boundary and I needed to tell the truth. ENTP and I had some cosmic times together, but my Husband is meant to be my Husband, I am sure of this from the bottom of my soul.
HOWEVER, I still see the ENTP guy maybe once a week because we are in the same social circle, and maybe I'm reaching, but I sense that perhaps he is in that same place because I am there (???) Gawd I sound vain, but my gut is telling me this. Because I have not seen him at this place, which is why I go there...
I say "hello" and go on about my business but somehow he seems to be within feet of me at all times. I'm not necessarily uncomfortable, but I don't know if there is a motive, and I think that is what is perplexing me. Okay, I do think there is a motive, but I'm not so forward to be like "wtf, yo?" and really, it did not end on bad terms, so why make it into something like that? And I really don't positively, concretely know.
But really....should I just not say anything because it's really not that serious? Maybe it's just the residual feelings or maybe he's just one of those soulmates and will just always be around in general so perhaps I should get used to it. I trust myself to be loyal to my Husband, so perhaps I'm just making too big a deal.
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? I don't know wtf I'm doing here. Kinda pissed at myself that I'm even in such a situation but I shouldn't be, especially all I've learned from it.
Any of yall Wise People have some insight? Thanks!
